Does “self care” equal “self-ish” to you? Often there is a negative connotation with the idea of focusing on yourself, especially when you have a child who is in crisis. Sadly, that is when self care is the most needed.
For some reason as parents we tend to feel this unrealistic weight and responsibility for everything that happens to our children. They got sick? What did we do to not keep them healthy? They got in a fight? Why didn’t we teach them how to solve their problems better? They are struggling in school? Why didn’t we enroll them in pre-school when they were in utero? So, I guess it makes sense that when our kids get anxiety and OCD we throw ourselves under the bus for that as well.
Sadly though, all this self-depreciation not only makes us less effective as a parent, but it hurts our kids with anxiety and OCD as well.
Your Kids Will Survive If… How many of us second guess our parenting every day? How many of us go to bed feeling guilty or inadequate? The madness has got to stop! I talk to awesome parents every day who think they are failing at this whole parenting thing. They aren’t – and you aren’t either. We are all doing the best we can. So, […]
You breathe a sigh of relief as your little ones are finally out of the crib. You are almost done with potty training. You no longer have to lug around a huge diaper bag full of survival paraphernalia just to keep your kid happy and alive. So why on earth should you be thinking about the second worst parenting experience – teenhood? Because what you […]
I invited Julie McCorkle from Jules and Co to teach us how to take five seconds out of our day to feel like a better mom. I love her ideas! Have you ever had one of those days? Your time is running short, your kids are running the halls, and you are running out of patience? We’ve all been there, it’s part of the package […]
If you’ve heard “None of my friend’s parents do this!” at least once – you are doing a great job. Parenting is a messy job. Your kids will constantly tell you that you are making bad parenting choices. If they are good, they will get you to question your sanity and your parenting at times. Are you being too harsh? Are you doing bad things […]
As a child therapist, I get to talk to a lot of parents. I mean tons. They talked to me about their kids, about their lives and most importantly about their parenting. I then meet their kids. I get a rare inside peek into the kid’s perspective. What do the kids find effective? What do they secretly admit doesn’t work? What do they wish their […]
I often find myself sitting opposite a couple on the couch, listening to them confess their parental woes. I silently nod in agreement as they describe their deepest, darkest parenting secrets. Ironically they aren’t that dark and they really don’t need to be secrets. Why? Because I have met that couple on the couch many times before. Yes, they have had different names, but their […]
I expected a loss of sleep and permanent fatigue – but I did not expect to be thrown into a world of ongoing forced social awkwardness! I had an epiphany when I entered motherhood. I don’t like socializing. I have been a dormant introvert. click here to continue…(on Scary Mommy.com). Introverted products that make me laugh:
Before I had children I was given many warnings about motherhood. I was warned about the jello stomach I would get after delivery. I was warned about the brain fog that would make me feel like a dementia patient. I was warned about the sleep deprivation that would make college all nighters look like a walk in the park. But no one ever warned […]
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