We will all fall short sometimes and so will our children with anxiety or OCD. They will avoid, they will crumble, they will give in to their anxiety or OCD. That is all par for the course. More often than not they will view these situations as “failures.” They might beat themselves up or use the experience as evidence that they can’t do it again.
Anxiety and OCD love to feed on avoidance. It will make our kids avoid all sorts of things. But the most powerful thing it can make them avoid is even talking about anxiety or OCD. When they avoid talking about anxiety or OCD they can’t make progress. It keeps them stuck in a loop that continues to grow anxiety or OCD.
How often do we hear from family, friends, and even doctors that we should “wait and see” if it gets worse. We should wait and see if the anxiety or OCD grows bigger. We should wait and see if anxiety or OCD becomes debilitating. We should wait and see if it is truly an issue.
Kids Who Worry Stuffed Animals and Toys Have Feelings Most kids get attached to stuffed animals or cute toys. But what if they thought those objects had feelings and it was their job to keep them safe? When you add anxiety or OCD into the mix, it could become a full time job. It can impact their sleep. What if I roll over them? It […]
Helping Kids with Limiting Beliefs Around Anxiety or OCD I can’t do it. I’ll never beat it. It will always be like this! Those types of limiting beliefs are not only hard to hear, but they can become a self fulfilling prophecy. In this week’s Youtube video for kids and teens I talk about limiting beliefs and how kids can take small steps to slowly […]
Ugly Parenting Moments and How to Repair Them We all have our ugly moments as parents. We all show up in ways we don’t want to show up for our kids with anxiety or OCD. But what do we do after those ugly moments are over? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore what triggers ugly parenting moments and how we can repair […]
Accommodation vs Validation in Kids with Anxiety or OCD Even though we don’t want to accommodate our child’s anxiety or OCD, it doesn’t mean that we can’t support or reassure our kids. Yes, I said reassure our kids. It’s how we reassure our kids that matters. Do we reassure their anxiety or OCD, or do we reassure them. It is important to validate our children’s […]
How Independence Can Help Kids Crush Anxiety Often our kids depend on others to reduce their anxiety, especially family members. Can you go with me? Can you stay with me? Can you tell me I am okay? Although this can help in the short run, this dependence can disempower kids to help themselves in the long run. In this week’s Youtube video I talk to […]
What Anxiety or OCD Stories Does Your Child Believe? Anxiety and OCD like to tell our kids stories. Stories like… You can’t sleep in the dark You can’t eat that You can’t be in crowds You can’t do that alone You can’t touch that You can’t think that You can’t survive that When our kids embrace these stories and take them at face value they […]
Helping Your Child Celebrate Small Wins around Anxiety or OCD Mindset is half the battle when it comes to anxiety or OCD. But how do we teach that to our kids and teens? How they view their wins is key to their long-term success. Do they acknowledge when they’ve overcome a fear or challenge? Do they recognize how far they’ve come, even if they have […]
Don’t Let Anxiety or OCD Rob Your Kids of Self Love Anxiety and OCD already rob our kids of so much, so it hurts when it takes a hit at their self love as well. Anxiety and OCD can feel stigmatizing and embarrassing. It can bombard a child with feelings of unworthiness and hopelessness. In this week’s Youtube video I talk to kids and teens […]
When to Push and When Not to Push Our Kids with Anxiety or OCD? Raising a child with anxiety or OCD is a balancing act. We have to learn when to push and when to not push our kids with anxiety or OCD. We want to empower them without overwhelming them. We want to validate their fears without always accommodating them. But how can you […]
Helping Our Kids with Anxiety or OCD by Leaning into Acceptance It is hard to accept that our child has anxiety or OCD. It is even harder to accept the pain, discomfort, and struggle they have to go through each day. But often we spend so much energy trying to swim upstream we get lost in the struggle. In this week’s episode of the AT […]
How to Help Kids Who Are Scared of Needles and Shots Most people aren’t thrilled to get a shot or get poked by a needle, but some of our kids are deathly afraid. This fear can cause severe panic when going to the doctor, the dentist or worse the lab or hospital! In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I invited a co-host who […]
Helping Kids When Anxiety Makes Them Feel They have to Always be Productive Anxiety can often show up in two very different ways. One is through avoidance. When a person is anxious they might avoid doing difficult things in order to avoid discomfort. I did a whole video on anxiety and procrastination here. The other coping mechanism is to do, do, do! Anxiety will tell […]