Parents would know if their child is anxious, right? You would see obvious signs? Your child would express all their fear and worries. They would be afraid all the time.

You might think you would know the signs of child anxiety. That it would be obvious. But, sometimes it is not. Sometimes parents miss it all together.

Unfortunately, anxiety isn’t always that obvious. Some children don’t vocalize their worries. They don’t show their fears. And anxiety isn’t on their parents’ radar.


In my child therapy practice parents often bring their children in for other reasons, only to discover that the problem is actually anxiety.


[Click here to listen to the podcast episode on this topic]

Here are five missed signs of child anxiety:




Anxiety isn’t just in our minds, it is in our body as well. Here are just a few examples-


Your child won’t poop. They have been constipated for weeks. You’ve been to the doctor and there is no medical origin.


Your child’s stomach hurts. They feel like throwing up. They are having gastrointestinal problems. You brought them to the pediatrician. You went to the gastrointestinal specialist. Your child has been poked, prodded and maybe even scoped. No medical origin has been found.


Anxiety isn’t just in the mind, it can be felt in the body as well.


Anxiety isn't just in our mind, it is in our body as well. Read the most common physical symptoms of anxiety.



Your child used to love school. They’ve always had friends and they have always gotten good grades. Now it is a battle just to get them in the car. They tell you they don’t feel well. Their stomach hurts. They say they are going to throw up. You keep them home – only to feel bamboozled because they seem fine shortly thereafter.


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You talk to the teacher and the counselor. Everyone swears up and down that your child has friends. That they are not being bullied. That they enjoy school.


Weekends are pain-free. Your child seems completely healthy – and then Sunday rolls around. The cycle begins again.




Anger can be tricky. Kids can be angry for so many reasons. They might have difficulty self-regulating. They might have a mood issue. They might have a hard time accepting no. But along with the usual contenders, anxiety can be the underlining cause of anger too.


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If your child stuffs their worries way down deep – the only thing to bubble to the surface might be their anger.


They come home from school ready to explode. Bedtime brings with it rage and resistance. New situations cause unusual hostility and defiance.


Pay attention to when and why your child gets angry – as it could be the key to unearthing the true cause.


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Your child used to love soccer practice and now they are refusing to go. Your child said they wanted to take swim lessons, but after the first lesson you can’t get them back to class. Your child always wants to stay home and refuses to go to restaurants and stores with you.


When a child starts avoiding situations they used to enjoy – it is time to take a second look at why. It might be that they simply no longer like soccer or swim class – but it might be something more significant.


The #1 unhealthiest, go-to coping mechanism for anxiety is AVOIDANCE. Avoid at all costs.


If I don’t go to soccer, then I won’t have to worry about the ball hitting my face.


If I say I don’t want to go to swim, then I won’t have to worry about sinking to the bottom of the pool.


If I put up a big fight – then I won’t have to go to the restaurant and worry about throwing up in public.




Your child has to line up all their stuffed animals in a perfect row before they go to bed. You have to say “I love you” in a certain way – for a certain number of times – before your child will go to bed.


Parents often mistake ritualistic behavior for routines. Routines are comforting and predicable. Rituals are rigid and need to be redone if not done “correctly.” Routines are a healthy part of childhood – rituals are an indication of anxiety.


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Anxiety is a very treatable condition. The earlier children get help – the better the prognosis in the long run. If you feel like your child is having some signs of anxiety, seek out the advice of a mental health professional. It can never hurt to get some professional input and guidance.


Educate yourself and find support and resources on the web. Watch parenting videos. Click here to check out an article on ways to plan ahead to handle your child’s anxiety. Think outside of the box. You can use yoga and other activities to help reduce you child’s anxiety. 


Did you find out your child had anxiety in an unusual way? Share in the comments below.


If you know someone who may show some of these signs – pass it on. Sharing is caring!

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If you are at a loss as to how to help your child manage anxiety, take the e-course Teach Your Kids to Crush Anxiety taught by a child therapist. Learn all the tools she teaches kids and teach them to your child. You don’t have to feel powerless.



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44 responses to “Are you Missing these 5 Uncommon Signs of Child Anxiety?”

  1. Phyllis says:

    I am glad you posted this because my son, who is on medication for anxiety, has these symptoms. When I asked the doctors what I should do about this type of behavior, they only said that I shouldn’t let him get away with it, as if he was just trying to manipulate me, and not that they were signs of the anxiety. Thank you for the insight.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      I am glad the article helped Phyllis. I think this behavior is often misconstrued, which is very unfortunate.

  2. Elna says:

    Hi Natasha,

    I have 3 year old twins and I’m a stay-at-home mom. I’m noticed more fear and anxiety based behaviors in my children. I understand fear of bugs is normal, but my children seem to be totally scared of other kids. My daughter bursts out crying, cowers and runs away from other children and doesn’t go near them. Now my son is displaying this behavior too now.

    My son picks his fingers constantly, my daughter twirls her hair in knots all the time. I have no idea what do to. They are in soccer class and they don’t play and just hoover by me. My daughter says she wants to go home. Do I still take them? I take them to the library, park, Mc Donald’s, have play dates, but they never play with other kids.

    When they were 2 my son was fearful of dogs, now he isn’t. My daughter at two didn’t like adult men, but now she’s okay with her soccer coach or other non-family adult men in her life.

    I’m starting to get anxious when we go to the park and there’s kids there. I don’t want to feel like this. I’m worried they can’t integrate when school approaches. They’ve never been to day care, so now I’m thinking, maybe that will help but I can only imagine the crying and fearfulness when I leave them for day care.

    What strategies can I do besides keep taking them to these social places? They are great children, love playing with each other and are generally happy kids. Granted, I’m not a social butterfly, but I can’t have possibly contributed to this?

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Elna, Sorry to hear about your children’s struggles. Some toddlers have social anxiety. Sometimes the best place to start is with just a few kids on a play date. Often kids are scared because kids yank toys out of their hands, push and shout. You can teach your kids how to respond to these situations – using each other and puppets to role play. Sometimes kids don’t know how to start playing with others. You can role play this with them as well. The good news is this behavior typically gets better over time. Hang in there!

  3. Sue E says:

    In my opinion, I think years ago, doctors misdiagnosed children’s anxiety. Also the children should be seen not heard theory was in place. I am so happy that they can express themselves & have a voice in their own lives – especially where abuse is concerned!! I really think pediatricians should start handing out pamphlets on some of these childhood issues when the children get their first set of shots for school. After all, these are our babies we are trying to help! Thanks for such a good informative article!!

  4. Katrina says:

    So happy I found this article. My daughter will be 6 next month and after reading this article I am pretty certain she is experiencing anxiety. We kind of expected some sort of behavior change from the trauma she went through in April. See our daughter was riding her bike on the sidewalk when a car ran her over. All she would say was she didn’t want to die. It was definitely a traumatic experience for all of us. One thing that really stood out to me was the routines vs. rituals. At bedtime my daughter would always kiss me and give me “eskimo kisses” or “maga maga” as she calls it. But now she has to give me a kiss, “maga maga”, kiss my forehead, kiss my eye, and kiss my cheek. If she thinks she forgot one she will come back and do it again. I hadn’t thought much about it, just thought this was another routine. Thank you for this information.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Katrina,
      I am so sorry to hear about your daughter’s accident. I am glad you found the article helpful!

  5. KJ says:

    My 8yo son displays all of the symptoms in the article. Dr has checked hormone levels and thought he might have had glandular fever, but all tests came back negative.

    Added complication is that he is on the autistic spectrum, high functioning, but a lot of his symptoms get dismissed because ‘that’s typical of a child with ASD’ but no one seems to listen when I say he didn’t have those problems a few months ago.

    I was diagnosed with a ‘generalised anxiety disorder’ shortly after he was born, but honestly I’d been struggling with panic attacks for years before that. Is it inheritable?

    I’m not really sure how to help him.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi KJ, sorry to hear about your son’s struggles. Yes, anxiety disorders have a genetic component and can run in families. Also, it is not uncommon for children with ASD to often have anxiety-related issues as well.

      • KJ says:

        I’ve ordered the book off amazon. Are there any other resources/therapies you’d recommend looking into as well?

        He certainly sleeps better for a few nights after seeing the chiropractor, but the effects don’t seem to last more than a few days.

        • Natasha Daniels says:

          Hi KJ,
          I would recommend checking into a child therapist to help him. A child therapist can teach him skills to overcome the anxiety and can help you parental approaches to help the anxiety as well.

          If you don’t have a child therapist in your area, I have put together a parenting video that walks parents through everything I teach anxious kids in my therapy practice. You can find it at

  6. Kelly says:

    Yep, this is my 2.5 year old. She has been this way since birth. I often wondered if it was my fault bc I suffered undiagnosed post partum depression.
    It’s intimate social settings. We ‘avoid’ going to parties, home play dates, and some community social functions bc she gets so nervous. Normally kids will cling to a parent when uncomfortable, but ours cries hysterically until we leave. Then she’s fine. Yep, she wears the pants. However, she’s fine in restaurants, parks, zoos, loves to shop, can even handle outdoor type festivities,and does fine with people she’s used to being around. Although, Disney was not the happiest place on earth for her. It’s when the attention is on her. To clarify there are no signs of autism or sensory disorders. Just anxiety. My husband and I aren’t like this so we have a hard time coping with her inability to be in intimate settings and don’t know the appropriate way to help her cope. I will say with stamina she gets “over it” for lack of a better word. The doctor says she’ll out grow it while I worry it the anxiety would get worse. To top this off she can’t even handle a doctor’s visit without loosing her marbles. Thank you for the article and for everyone’s stories.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Kelly,
      Sorry to hear about your daughter’s struggles. I think it is better to give kids skills to cope with their anxiety rather than waiting to see if they will “grow out of it.” Even if this is your daughter’s temperament, there are great ways to help empower her. There are helpful books on how to parent a child with anxiety. You can check out my book on toddler anxiety, How to Parent Your Anxious Toddler.

  7. Kate says:

    My son is 6 and I sometimes wonder if he has anxiety. He does not have those signs but he did quit swimming because he would not try to swim by himself. Anything that involves taking a leap of faith like that, he will not do and will go into panic mode if you try to convince him. He also always needs to know where we are going, who is going to be there, etc. sometimes he even tries to plan out exactly how it will go ‘if j is there and he doesn’t want to play with me, then I’ll say____ or do____’ but other than that it doesn’t seem to hinder him to much so I don’t know if it’s anything to worry about or not.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Kate,
      All of us have different degrees of worry and/or anxiety in our personality. Many people can be worriers without an anxiety disorder.

      Some kids are cautious. It sounds like your son is too. He also sounds like a planner. As long as that is not impeding his social or emotional development – there is nothing to worry about. If you want peace of mind you can always have a consultation with a child therapist.

      When kids are overly cautious you want to explain everything that will be happening and address any of their “what if” concerns. You then want to help them through it one step at a time. For swimming that might mean wearing swim goggles in the bathtub and getting used to going under water there first. Then moving to the shallow end of the pool etc. This can be very slow going.

      It sounds like your son has some great coping mechanisms already! Yes, he has the worry of what to do if someone doesn’t play with him, but he also problem-solves a solution. That is actually great!

      Hope this answers your question.

  8. Amanda says:

    Does this list apply to 7yr olds? my 6, almost 7 year old displays pretty much all of these signs. I’ve thought the first step is talking to the school counselor, what is your take?

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Amanda,
      Yes, these signs would apply to kids of all ages. The school counselor would be a good start. It also couldn’t hurt to meet with a child therapist for an initial session without your child to get their input.

  9. Jennifer says:

    We always knew my son was a worrier but I started to see that it was something more when he started repeating himself under his breath after everything he said. I belive it’s called pallilalia. We are told this is a sign of anxiety and trauma. We have since identified many situations where his anxiety is present including at bedtime. We have seen a therapist 4 times now without my son (who is 5) and I think her advice is spot on. She told us to respond to his poor behaviour as if he is worried or sad or anxious instead of whatever the poor behaviour is. Mad is the hat sad wears, she told us. That really struck a chord. Address the feeling behind the action. If he’s whining and needing me for every little thing it’s likely because he needs to reconnect. Of he wants me to stay an extra 5 mins at bedtime, I should stay…give him what he needs…safety and security. From there we are told he will develop a sense of safety and security and his confidence will increase and his anxiety will improve. Thoughts? Does this sound like a good approach? And how long might it take for us to see improvements? Since we started he has been more clingy to us and having a harder time separating from us.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Jennifer,
      I am sorry to hear about your little guy’s struggles. Sounds like he has some great parents to help him through. I love your therapist’s approach of addressing the anxiety behind the behavior, as many kids act out due to their anxiety.

      My therapeutic approach is a bit different with regard to bed time. I do feel it is key to help kids feel safe and secure, but I am also a big fan of giving kids the tools to feel empowered and independent. If we always lie with our anxious kids until they feel safe and secure, some of us would be lying next to them until they go to college. I also feel it can exacerbate anxiety – making them co-dependent on our presence to feel safe.

      I have three anxious kiddos at home and bed time has been a challenge for all three of them at various times in their development. I think it is important to validate their fears and offer some comfort, but then help them reframe their thinking, offer them tools to make themselves feel safe and praise their bravery and progress. I talk about some of these approaches in my article 5 Things you Can do Tonight to Help Your Child’s Nighttime Fears

      There is no right way or wrong way to help anxious kids. Therapists all have their own unique style and approach to issues. Mine just happens to be a bit different than the one you described.

  10. Melissa says:

    After reading this article I’m fairly certain anxiety anxiety is the source of my daughters bedtime problems. She’s a very nervous 6 year old old to begin with, and lately she has been throwing up at bedtime. She’ll play and be happy all day but when the lights go out her stomach will hurt and she’ll throw up and then finally go to sleep. I myself have terrible anxiety and I hate that I’ve passed it on to her. Any suggestions would be welcome!

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  13. Terry Monfet says:

    Good Morning Natasha,
    I am raising my 7 year old grandson. He lives with my husband, my mother and I while my daughter lives in another state with her father and his father lives in that same state with his wife and two new children. Aedin is very much a part of his two brother’s lives but my daughter tries to make psychological warfare with Aedin going to visit his Dad. I tell him there is nothing wrong with him loving and visiting his Dad but my daughter has drilled it into his head that they do not feed him nothing but oatmeal and corn dogs. I have asked her to stop but she resists, she comes to my home either high or drunk and is loud and abusive to everyone in the house and Aedin is beginning to show signs of doing this as well. There is a lot of anxiety in my home because of this and my Mother is part of this also when she begins to yell at the dogs for barking. Today my grandson had an anxiety attack on the school bus. He goes to my brother’s house to go on the school bus with his two cousins but yesterday he said he wanted to live there. My daughter has had a history of mental illness and instability, I am wondering if I should not bring Aedin to be seen by a child psychologist in the event he is showing signs of mental illness. I am not sure if the whole parenting thing is making him anxious or if it is hereditary. He is going for a sleep over with my daughter’s ex boyfriend this weekend and is very excited to see him. So many things happening for him and I do not want to make him feel bad about seeing a psychologist but I am getting very worried for his mental health. I want him to know that he is very loved by all of us but sometimes adults can do the wrong thing even if they are our parents but I do not want to tell him that what his Mom does and says is bad. Please help!

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Sorry to hear about what your grandson has to go through 😢. I would get him into a psychologist for, at the very least, a place to process his feelings about the family issues. I tell kids I am a “feelings teacher” and that it is a class where you talk about feelings. I tell kids I only see one “student” at a time because feelings can be private. Maybe that reframe would help?

  14. Michelle says:

    My 11 year old daughter started having symptoms of dizziness a year and a half ago. We went to doctors and was told it sinus, then POTS and MAV but now saying its just anxiety and we a have had one appt with a psychologist. But I’m at a loss on how to deal with this. The stress from husband saying I baby her and to just force her to do things to my daughter having serious meltdowns about leaving the house. I think today she recognized the connection between her ‘not feeling real’ and being out in public yesterday and today..for a very short period of time. She is now under a 50 4 plan with home schooling but I want her to get back to normal and so does she. I have my own anxiety issues and panic attacks and this is just stressing me out. I hate seeing her be like me…but at a whole new level. any advice appreciated. Don’t go to see psychologist again until Thursday. IN the meantime, I’m caught between husband and kid.

  15. Dannielle Bennett says:

    OMG!!!! I can’t say thank you enough! My husband had an anxiety break when my daughter was about 2. He had been what I considered high maintance but realized later that it was anxiety. I knew it runed in families but never thought that my daughter would show signs so young. My daughter just turned 5 and I thought I was losing my mind. She didn’t want to be separated from me didn’t want to go to school even though her teachers say she was loved and has a blast. I didn’t even consider it to be anxiety because what would a 5 year old be anxious about Right? You have eased my mind about what is wrong and many sleepless nights. I was so distraught about what was wrong and how i was going to help her. I will definitely follow your pod cast!

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Sorry to hear about your daughter’s struggles Dannielle. Anxiety doesn’t always look like anxiety in young kids. I am glad you spotted it! I hope my podcast helps 🙂

  16. RD Jenkins says:

    My 6 yo grandchild has been complaining of feeling angry and mad. Recently he said he had a broken heart and that his heart “hurt”. He does not know why he feels this way. He is loving, outgoing, athletic and loves to laugh.
    He said he feels angry inside like “when one kid pushes another”. What is the best way to help him with these feelings?

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      It sounds like your grandson has a big heart ❤️. I wonder if it would help him to learn what he can do when he sees situations like that so he doesn’t feel so hopeless. Some kids have such big emotions it is hard for them to see other kids be so cruel.

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  18. Yvonne Laflamme says:

    My daughter is having problem with her 4 yr old they just recently moved before Christmas and her daughter cries and has tantrum hides does not want to get dressed just does not want to go to school hit her does’nt want to go to her dance class the school she is going to is way bigger than the school she used to go a lot of different nationality she says she misses her friends and wish she could move back she does’nt know how to deal with it can you please give me some suggestion that would help her thank you waiting for some help

  19. Beth M. says:

    Hi Natasha,
    I am struggling to figure out what is normal for a kid in regards to being nervous and afraid, and when I should consider it more than a phase or just a kid that is aware of dangers. My 7 year old son has always been a little bit of a worrier, but I’m not sure if it’s normal. It started when he had a tummy ache one day about 6 months ago. He asked me if he would die if he ate mouse poison. Of course I started serious questioning about if he had eaten anything. He assured me he had not. Come to find out, he saw something on TV where a woman had poisoned her husband. He cried every time he had to eat because he thought it had poison in it (it was bad). He freaked out so bad one time that he was screaming in the back seat of the car that he thought his heart was stopping and asking me if the doctors would be able to start it again. Absolutely broke my heart but he was able to calm down before we got close to home (otherwise it would have been a trip to the hospital). The mouse poison fears lasted several weeks, now he only asks if he sees a speck or something that catches his eye in his food. Or he’ll question things if he accidentally put his finger in his mouth, as if there was mouse poison on a doorknob or something. I’m not sure if the fear is mostly gone or if he controls himself on speaking about it. He also has a ritual (I found that part very interesting) at night. I have to hug, kiss, snuggle him in (in that order) and he always asks if I checked that the doors are locked. He also reminds me to check on him at night and asks for me to do it at a specific time (I don’t check on him every night but I tell him I do so he feels better).
    If he overhears someone talk about a car accident or cancer or anything else, he always asks if it’s going to happen to him and never seems to forget about the possibility. On the positive side, he is very safe to avoid accidents! Maybe I have just been too open with him about life and our immortality?
    Socially he is very popular and gets along with other kids great, but yesterday I had to pick him up from school with a tummy ache. Turns out two girls had yelled at him (nothing personal) and it upset him so much his stomach hurt.
    I just find it strange because he seems like a very well-rounded, smart, polite, friendly, outgoing kid. I can’t decide where the line is between anxiety and just a sensitive and worry-prone attitude. Sorry this is so long but I thought it would help explain his personality. Plus it helps me feel better to get it off my chest!
    Thank you

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Beth, Sorry to hear about your son’s struggles. Your examples do seem more extreme than the typical child. I think when you have an anxious child it is best to be proactive and give them the skills early to beat these fears. I would recommend having him see a child therapist that specializes in anxiety to build those skills early on.

  20. YANIV says:

    hello Natasha,
    my 7 yr old daughter is suffering from GAD. I am very much worried about her. I am not getting any fruitful solution
    kindly help me by sending any remedial videos or any article which can help me in getting my child free from these thoughts.


    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Sorry to hear about your daughter’s struggles. Feel free to scroll down to the bottom of the page and use the search button. I have hundreds of articles, videos and podcasts on anxiety. Type in a topic to find material on it.

  21. Brandi says:

    I have a 6 year old son who has been having panic attacks since starting kindergarten it seems. Always at night, sees things that arent there but cant describe them, trembles, sweats so much it looks like he just got out of the shower, and looks as if he saw a ghost. It usually makes him dry heave too 🙁 Hes scared of the dark so we have a lamp we keep on and we keep the hall light on also. sometimes he has them in his sleep and it wakes him up. He just started baseball last month and now they seem to be once a week. Im thinking it may be caused by too much stimulation but just an assumption. We are on a waiting list to see a therapist. I also believe he has ADHD but havent had him tested for it. He is very impulsive 80% of the time.
    Hes a great kid. seems to be happy most of the time but like a light switch, he falls into this dark place :(. My husband was diagnosed with anxiety disorder in his mid 20’s so im thinking this was passed down to our son. Its always disturbing to me when i see him like this. i feel so helpless! Luckily my husband is good with talking to our son and helping him to breathe and calm down. Trying to cope with seeing my child get like this has been a big challenge. I freeze, and i dont know how to comfort him besides holding him. Its nice to know my family isnt alone. I believe in finding non medicated ways of treating panic disorder in children. I hear its pretty treatable. Really looking forward to our therapist visits.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Brandi, So sorry to hear about your son’s struggles. Yes, anxiety has such a strong genetic component that it could be passed down. I try and teach kids how to fight their fears one small step at a time. You will find tons of podcasts, youtube videos and articles on my site to help you teach your son these skills. Here is one that might help:

  22. Janet says:

    This is such a helpful article and I hope everyone who comes across it understands how spot on it is. One thing that is missing, or maybe I missed it in the article, is that often times schools mistake anxiety for attention deficit disorder.

    I am not a therapist. I am an elementary school teacher and mom of a now 17 year old who was ‘officially’ diagnosed with general anxiety disorder when they were in third grade. I say officially because our pediatrician and I started monitoring in first grade when my child would shut down for timed tasks/tests (especially in math). Then in second grade the teacher was a bit of a control freak. Timed tests were still an issue; the teacher put her on a behavior plan because her desk was a mess and she would doodle on her paper (drawing when learning or listening to something new helps her focus). All year the teacher talked about the state standardized test they would be taking in third grade. It should be noted that I was a teacher at this school. In this grade. My child would never have told me what was going on, if I hadn’t known to ask. Can you guess what happened next? This child who loved learning and school STOPPED loving it.

    Third grade rolled around and things got progressively worse (insert a little being the victim of bullying here). One month into the school year the teacher approached me to fill out a Brown Scale. At this school, this was code for we think your child has ADD. I had been very open about the anxiety and the things that had contributed to it, but they disagreed. So, I took my child to a therapist that performed cognitive and educational testing. And the results were that we were absolutely dealing with general anxiety disorder. Armed with the test results, we got her on a 504; went through play therapy; and have worked hard to help her develop coping strategies to help her deal with her anxiety. Volleyball was a BIG part of that. Learning how not to perseverate on a mistake . . . acknowledging it, then moving on because there’s always another ball, is as much a part of the game as serving, passing, setting and hitting .

    I am not saying it has been smooth sailing since third grade. The transitions into middle and high school were tough. We reevaluated freshman year because that was a particularly rocky transition. But the results were the same.

    Every once in awhile we hit a bump in the road. Which has resulted in her grades not accurately reflecting just how stinking smart she is. BUT she did really well on her first pass at the SAT, and she did not prep for it. So now we are looking at colleges. We realize a small school will be the best fit. And because she has done a good job of learning to advocate for herself there is a sense of relief.

    I encourage anyone reading this to have faith. Be there to support your child, but also help them grow and develop the ability to be their own advocate. Do not shy away from a 504 and don’t let the school try to talk you out of it when you go from elementary to middle school. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for (reasonable) accommodations. I asked if my child could use their phone to set alarms to remind them to turn in their homework (6th grade); the answer was a firm no. The next year at the annual review, they suggested it to me. And students can have a 504 in college; be sure you learn about the process.

    Thanks, again, for this article. Have a blessed day.

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