Teach your Child How to Fight Anxiety….and be a Super Hero!

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Teaching your child how to fight anxiety can start at a very young age. I have worked with children as young as two and three that were able to learn skills on how to face their fears. So, roll up your sleeves and start arming your child with skills to overcome their anxiety. It is never too early to turn your little one into a superhero!

Does your child have fears? Teach your child to fight their fears and overcome their anxiety.



Set the Battle Ground

Have your child name their worries. Sometimes this will just be Mr. Worry, but you can pick something more specific based on your child’s fears (Mr. Bossy, Mr. Bugs, Mr. Scared, Mr. Sick etc.). Tell them that Mr. Scared likes to boss kids around and make them fearful. Have them create a worthy superhero to fight off Mr. Scared. I like to use the child’s name with Super in front of it (Super John, Super Amber, etc.). Have them draw a picture of Mr. Scared and of their superhero. Prompt them to make the superhero look like them in some way.

Dress the Superhero

Children love dress up and there is something transforming when one is dressed as a superhero. Have your child pick out a superhero costume
that they can wear when they are a fighting Mr. Scared. A cape and a mask are always good places to start. If they have a particular superhero that they love – have them dress up as that instead.

Give them the back story

Set the stage for your child by giving them their superhero story. Incorporate your child’s fears into the story. Their story might go something like:

There once was a mean, bossy guy named Mr. Scared. Mr. Scared liked to go around bullying kids and making them feel scared. Every time Mr. Scared was able to make a kid feel scared, he would grow bigger. Super John wasn’t going to let Mr. Scared grow any bigger! When Mr. Scared started telling him to be scared of the dark, Super John didn’t listen to him! He knew he could turn on the lights.

Put on Your Game Face

In my house we have a “Brave Face” pose. Whenever anyone is scared to do something – we say, “Brave face!” and we all put our heads up high and proud. Sometimes duck lips are included. Sometimes it is a full superhero pose – arms on hips, chest pushed out. It is a nice way to empower each other and it encourages us to fight through our fears. At the very least, it lightens the mood and makes us all laugh.


Verbally encourage your superhero

Having your child dressed and feeling empowered is only half the battle. Now they will need actual experiences to challenge and fight Mr. Scared. You want to encourage your child’s independence by giving them the least amount of assistance they need during these challenges. First start by giving them verbal support. You can say things like, “Don’t let Mr. Scared win this battle! Where is Super John? Do you need to get your cape on? Show me the Brave face!!”

Give suggestions to your superhero

Give your superhero some suggestions. You can say, “I know it seems dark upstairs, but there is a light switch right there you can turn on.” Or another suggestion might be something like, “We can sing together as you go upstairs so you know I am still right here.”

Offer limited support to your superhero

When your superhero is lacking some any superpowers – it may be time to call in for back up. The main goal is for your child to feel success, so if you have come to the conclusion that Mr. Scared is definitely going to win the battle, get your kiddo’s back!

Offer the least amount of intervention as possible. This might be turning the light on for them or walking half way up the stairs with them. Always premise your assistance with something like, “Okay Super John I will make you a deal. I will turn on the light for you if you do the rest” or “I will go up the first flight of stairs, if you go up the rest.” Getting your child to agree on a plan makes it more likely that they will stick with it…sometimes. If that doesn’t work – pleading helps – “Don’t let Mr. Scared win! I know you can beat him!”

Okay, if all else fails, bribe your superhero!

I know that if someone told me to jump off a high dive there would very little that anyone could say to get me to do it. However, if the price was right – I might be encouraged to face my fears and try to do it. When all else fails offer a “challenge prize.” I will often have families set up a “challenge treasure box
” that is filled with dollar store toys and prizes. When your child is faced with a particularly hard challenge, you can offer a challenge prize if they try to do it. You want your child to push themselves just slightly out of their comfort zone. If they are able to do this, but don’t fully complete the challenge you can say, “You were amazing! I know that was scary for you, but you went ahead anyway and tried to do it! You get a challenge prize for being so brave!”


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Children don’t turn into superheroes overnight, but if you don’t give your child the skills to fight their fears, they have lost the battle before it has even begun.


This post is part of the Raising Resilient Children series. Click the image below to find more tips from mental health professionals!

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31 responses to “Teach your Child How to Fight Anxiety”

  1. Melissa says:

    This is great advice. My kids like wearing Superhero capes. I like the idea of using a story to help them fight anxiety! #ManicMondaysBlogHop

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Thanks for stopping by! My kids love capes too. I think they are in capes and underwear more than clothes!!

  2. Babes about Town says:

    Aww this is a great post, so useful. It’s hard enough fighting off our anxieties and fears as adults, I always feel for the little ones when they have a wobbly moment.

    I use a lot of storytelling, talking openly, sharing my own fears and anxieties and how I try to manage them, and also reminding them of times they overcame their wobbles and shone!

    One of the biggest hurdles was nightmares – my eldest went through a patch when he was much younger, and I made up a fun song called ‘Bad Dreams’ that we sing at the top of our lungs to scare any bad dreams away. We always wind up in giggles and that does the trick. I think laughter is a great detractor for any fears, large or small. Thanks for sharing this 🙂

  3. Erin @ Nourishing My Scholar says:

    Great Post! I love the idea of using a story and supper heroes to help with their anxiety!

  4. Natasha Daniels says:

    Hi Gayle – I am glad this post had good timing. I hope this helps his nightmares!

  5. Stacey says:

    Great advice. My oldest is a very anxious child. I want him to have fun, but he has quite a few fears and doesn’t like to be around many people.

  6. Haley says:

    A great post! I guess it’s time to get some capes!

  7. Debra Elliott says:

    Thank you for sharing this great advice. My grandson suffers from anxiety and these tips are great helpers.

  8. I love this article and echo all the above comments! I also love the superhero reference and have used similar references to help child manage other feelings and emotions! Thanks for this great intervention!

  9. Jennifer Tammy says:

    This is a thoroughly wonderful post — thank you so much for it!

  10. Aly says:

    What a informative post.Thanks for joining the Parenting Pin-It Party.Don’t forget to join in again tomorrow over on my blog.

  11. Haley says:

    I really enjoyed this article. Anxiety and fear are such a hard thing for parents to overcome. I just want to let you know I selected you to be featured in the Laugh & Learn Link-up.



  12. Nina says:

    I hadn’t heard of labeling the emotions as Mr. but we definitely label the emotions in our home. It helps now that they can say the words, too. I find it’s important for them to be able to name it and also understand that it’s normal and comes and goes.

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    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Hi Michelle – I am so sorry to hear about your daughter’s struggle. Anxiety can be so intense some times! It sounds like you tried some great ideas. Unfortunately anxiety can take some time to work through. I would definitely seek out the help of a child therapist – as you need some professional support and possibly ongoing help.

      In the meanwhile, I like how you offered earplugs and the option to not flush – often that is enough to help an anxious child with bathroom fears. Since that didn’t work – perhaps talking to the school nurse or if you have a school counselor – they can arrange for her to go to the bathroom in their office. Sometimes having a quiet place where there is an adult in the other room can help.

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