OCD Isn’t Always a Fear, Sometimes it is a Feeling

OCD Isn’t Always a Fear, Sometimes it is a Feeling

OCD isn’t always a fear. This can confuse not only parents and kids but even therapists. We can be digging and digging feeling like we are missing something when in reality the problem is right in front of us. OCD doesn’t have to be about fear. There are many OCD themes that center around a feeling. These can be feelings of disgust, grossness, not just right or a feeling of incompleteness to name a few.

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PSP 274: Getting ahead of school refusal before school starts

PSP 274: Getting ahead of school refusal before school starts

The idea of going back to school can bring waves of panic for both you and your child. You might want to pretend the first day of school will never happen. Trust me I get it! But there are things we can do in advance to prepare our kids to lessen the likelihood of school refusal. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about some common anxiety and OCD themes that create school refusal and how to work on them before it becomes an issue for next school year.

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Helping Kids Understand Fight, Flight or Freeze Responses

Helping Kids Understand Fight, Flight or Freeze Responses

We all respond to perceived danger in different ways. It can help to understand the many ways our body and brains can respond to stress, so we are better equipped to handle it when it happens. In this week’s Youtube video I explain to kids and teens the fight, flight or freeze responses to fear and anxiety. I also discuss some ways to work through them.

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PSP 272: Dealing with Disappointment when Anxiety or OCD Comes Back

PSP 272: Dealing with Disappointment when Anxiety or OCD Comes Back

It can feel so good when anxiety and OCD pack their bags and give you your child back. Heck, give you your home back. So it can be more than jarring when that unwanted guest shows back up at your front door.

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The Truth: OCD Will Never Let You Feel Comfortable

The Truth: OCD Will Never Let You Feel Comfortable

OCD hooks our kids in with a lie. If you just do this you’ll feel more comfortable. But the reality is, OCD will never let them feel comfortable. The only way through OCD is to learn how to handle the discomfort. When our kids sit in discomfort OCD loses all its power. 

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PSP 271: Fighting OCD is Often Not What Kids Think

PSP 271: Fighting OCD is Often Not What Kids Think

You’ll often hear the word “fight your OCD.” In fact, one of my favorite books about OCD is called Talking Back to OCD, by John March. But sometimes kids misunderstand what this means (and parents too). When we talk about fighting OCD we are usually talking about a counterintuitive way to push back. A way to approach OCD that may not seem like traditional “fighting” at all.

In this week’s podcast I talk about the counterintuitive way to “fight” OCD and why we need to clarify this with our kids.

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5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #5

5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #5

OCD is clever and can easily outsmart our kids by convincing them to do what feels intuitively right. If OCD says they should avoid, they avoid. If OCD says they should do something to make the discomfort go away, they do it.

In part 5 of this 5 part YouTube series, I talk to kids about how listening to what OCD wants will always grow their struggles. We talk about what ERP (Exposure Response Prevention) therapy is and how it can help.

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PSP 270: Getting Kids to Own Their Journey with Anxiety or OCD

PSP 270: Getting Kids to Own Their Journey with Anxiety or OCD

Many of us learn how to help our kids with anxiety or OCD, but are we doing enough to help them help themselves? Helping our kids own their journey is key to their long-term success.

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5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #4

5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #4

One of the biggest barriers our kids have around crushing OCD is the belief that OCD is keeping them safe. When our kids join hands with OCD and see themselves as a united front, it can be hard to convince them otherwise. In part 4 of this 5 part YouTube series, I talk to kids about how OCD is not keeping them safe and how that belief is at the heart of what is holding them back.

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5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #3

5 Things Every Child with OCD Should Know: Here is #3

Often kids and even parents are focusing on the wrong thing when it comes to OCD. 

They’ll ask:

How can I make these thoughts go away?

I’m doing therapy, why are the thoughts still there?

How long does it take to make these thoughts or feelings leave?

These are the wrong questions. None of us have the power to stop intrusive thoughts or feelings. The only thing we have the power over is how we respond to these thoughts and feelings.

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PSP 268: Do You Take Your Child’s Anxiety or OCD Personally?

PSP 268: Do You Take Your Child’s Anxiety or OCD Personally?

Anxiety and OCD can cause our children to act in ways that can be overwhelming, disheartening and sometimes even hurtful. It is easy to fall into the trap of taking our children’s anxiety or OCD personally. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about the many ways we can take our children’s anxiety or OCD behaviors personally, and what we can do instead.

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PSP 267: Helping Kids with Emetophobia | The Fear of Throwing Up with Dawn Huebner 

PSP 267: Helping Kids with Emetophobia | The Fear of Throwing Up with Dawn Huebner 

It might surprise some people that the fear of throwing up, Emetophobia, is one of the most common anxiety and OCD themes. For those of us raising a child with it, it isn’t surprising at all! Sometimes this fear is triggered by an event or experience, but often it is the imagination alone that causes this immobilizing concern. We all throw up and many of us see others throw up, but we are able to move past it without too much residual impact.

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PSP 266: How to Turn Our Child’s “Failures” into Wins

PSP 266: How to Turn Our Child’s “Failures” into Wins

We will all fall short sometimes and so will our children with anxiety or OCD. They will avoid, they will crumble, they will give in to their anxiety or OCD. That is all par for the course. More often than not they will view these situations as “failures.” They might beat themselves up or use the experience as evidence that they can’t do it again.

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PSP 265: Helping Kids with Anxiety & OCD with the Downtime of Summer

PSP 265: Helping Kids with Anxiety & OCD with the Downtime of Summer

Summer is here and with that comes extra free time for most of our kids with anxiety or OCD. You would think that would be a wonderful thing. Less pressure from school, homework and peer interactions. Less places to be and less things to do. But for some of our kids that extra downtime can actually increase their anxiety or OCD issues. 

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This Belief Grows Our Child’s Anxiety or OCD (and ours too)

This Belief Grows Our Child’s Anxiety or OCD (and ours too)

There are so many things we want to control in our lives. None of us want to die, get sick, get rejected, get judged, get hurt. None of us want to be overwhelmed with feelings of hurt, harm, embarrassment or disgust. None of us want to second guess our actions, behaviors or future.

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