How to Help Our Kids & Teens Handle Bad Dreams We all have bad dreams, but for those of us with anxious minds, we have them much more often. Unfortunately bad dreams are not only miserable to have, they can make your child fearful of going to sleep. In this week’s Youtube video I talk to kids and teens about: What they can do after […]
Helping Anxious Kids with Big Emotions with Wendy Bertagnole It’s hard to find an anxious child who doesn’t have BIG emotions at times. It is par for the course for our kids with anxiety and OCD. So how are we supposed to handle them? What approaches will help our kids learn how to work through those big feelings? I always love bringing you experts in […]
How to Help a Child with Both Autism and OCD Many parents who are raising children with both Autism and OCD find themselves in a no man’s land of sorts. Professionals treating Autism don’t always understand OCD and those treating OCD don’t always understand Autism. Ugh. What a struggle. That is why talking to Dr. Rebecca Sachs is like talking to a rare unicorn. Her […]
How to Help Teens Overcome a Fear of Driving “I’ll do it tomorrow.” That’s what many of us hear when we are trying to coax our teens to start practicing driving. And who can blame them, even teens without anxiety are scared to drive! But avoidance will only grow the fear over time. In this week’s Youtube video, I talk to teens about their fear […]
How to Help Kids Not Care What Other People think What if people notice? What if people laugh? What if people judge? What if… What if… Our kids (and us too) can spend so much time worrying about what other people think that we forget to enjoy the moment. It robs us from experiencing life. It can consume our thoughts and dictate our actions. In […]
Helping Kids Who Procrastinate “I’ll do it later.” That’s normally how it starts. “I have plenty of time.” That’s how it continues. “I can’t do it! I don’t have enough time.” That’s how it ends. Welcome to the world of procrastination. Anxious kids are either one extreme or the other. Kids who procrastinate want to kick the can down the road until the road comes […]
How to Help Kids with OCD Checking Behavior It starts off with a little nag. Did you do it? Are you sure? The uncertainty grows. The nagging impulse grows. Check! Check again! Until eventually the child caves and checks. But OCD checking behavior is a trap. Mental quick sand, I like to call it. It catches people in a vicious loop that they can’t get […]
I have gotten many requests from kids on my Youtube channel to make a video on how to talk to their parents about anxiety or OCD. This breaks my heart. Kids are struggling and suffering silently. Perhaps there are loving, caring parents nipping at the bit to help, if they only knew?
It was bedtime. While most parents were breathing a sigh of relief and doing a mental countdown, I was starting to tense up. I was tired. No, I was exhausted. I hadn’t had a good night sleep in months. We were on a bad run.
When your body is changing, your voice is changing, your mood is changing- it can be too much change at once! No wonder why you hear so many anxious kids say, “I hate puberty!”
Is Your Child Quick To Beat Themselves Up? | Dealing with Negative Self-Talk Is your child quick to beat themselves up? Always taking the blame? Always self-hating? Many kids fill themselves with guilt, shame and anger when they make mistakes. Regardless of the situation, they turn their anger and disappointment inward. It’s difficult to watch kids be so hard on themselves. It’s hard to hear […]
Is Bloody Mary Real? How to Help Kids with Legends As a child therapist I spend way too much time talking about Bloody Mary. This is an elusive ritual that is supposed to produce a screaming bloody ghost from a mirror. It is a urban legend that continues to torture kids decade after decade. Kids all want to know – Is Bloody Mary real? To […]
If you have a child with Anxiety or OCD in your home, you probably also have fear living there as well. Fear loves to cozy up with our kids and boss them around. Sometimes it can seem too daunting to beat fear. Fear can seem omnipresent and all powerful to our little people (and sometimes ourselves as well).
I teach kids that they don’t have to take big swings at fear to win. Fear can swing back and knock them off their feet. But I do teach kids that they can push back. They can make fear wait. They can poke back at fear and move towards it instead of away from it.