PSP 343: Are We Making Our Child’s Social Anxiety Worse?

PSP 343: Are We Making Our Child’s Social Anxiety Worse?

In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I outline common mistakes we make that unintentionally make our child or teen’s social anxiety worse. I’ll also outline positive approaches and steps to take to empower your child and reduce their social anxiety.

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What is Your Teen’s Social Anxiety and What is Their True Self?

What is Your Teen’s Social Anxiety and What is Their True Self?

In this week’s YouTube video I talk to teens and adults about how to explore their true self separate from social anxiety and how to develop realistic goals that honor their true self.

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PSP 342: A Sisters Journey Through OCD to a Life of Purpose

PSP 342: A Sisters Journey Through OCD to a Life of Purpose

Emily and Lindsay both struggled with OCD as kids. Even though they were sisters, OCD showed up in very different ways for each of them.

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How Does Your Child View Life: Is the Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

How Does Your Child View Life: Is the Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

How your child views life in general can have a huge impact on their struggles with anxiety or OCD. If they see all the negative aspects of everything, they’ll automatically be more prone to a hopeless, defeatist attitude. 

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How Your Child Sees the World Can Impact Their Ability to Get Relief from Anxiety or OCD

How Your Child Sees the World Can Impact Their Ability to Get Relief from Anxiety or OCD

Is the cup half empty or half full for your child? How they view their world and their situation can make a huge difference in how they handle anxiety or OCD.

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PSP 340: The Balance Between Rescuing and Empowering Our Kids 

PSP 340: The Balance Between Rescuing and Empowering Our Kids 

The balance between rescuing and empowering our anxious kids.

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OCD Compulsions are Fuel to OCD | Is Your Child Fueling Their OCD?

OCD Compulsions are Fuel to OCD | Is Your Child Fueling Their OCD?

The math is simple. The more compulsions our kids do, the bigger their OCD will grow. And yet, OCD can make it feel more complicated in their head. It can make them go to the mental gym weighing out the dangers. It can make them calculate the risks. It can make them believe that their safety or even their identity is at risk.
So how do they stop fueling their OCD? First, they should learn what things are compulsions. Kids (and parents) often miss compulsions that only consist of avoidance, accommodations or mental activities. Second, they need to build their muscles to not fuel their OCD. The best way to reduce OCD is to cut off the fuel line. That can take time, patience and perseverance – but it is the sure fire way to reduce OCD symptoms in the long-term.

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Does Your Child Get Anxious Anticipating Things? How to Get Relief from Anticipatory Anxiety.

Does Your Child Get Anxious Anticipating Things? How to Get Relief from Anticipatory Anxiety.

Anticipatory anxiety can be just as paralyzing as other anxiety themes. When we live in the world of what-ifs we can build up so much anxiety that we are immobilized by the time the situation or event arrives. It can help to teach our kids to build up skills on how to manage their anxiety prior to the situation. When they proactively quell the monumental avalanche of anxious thoughts they show up for the event/situation with less anxiety. In this week’s YouTube video for kids and teens I talk about some approaches to handle and reduce anticipatory anxiety.

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Does Your Child Worry About What Other People Think?

Does Your Child Worry About What Other People Think?

We all worry about what other people think, that is a human condition. But when you have social anxiety those thoughts consume you, devour you. With social anxiety we are on the hamster wheel of acceptance. We look for it, we analyze it, we tell ourselves we don’t have it – and the cycle repeats. But what if our kids could get off that hamster wheel of caring what other people think, or at least to the level that they do? What if they flipped it around and asked themselves, What do I think? How do I view myself? This is where the real work begins when trying to get rid of social anxiety. It begins with ourselves. In this week’s YouTube video I talk to kids and teens about how to shift their concern about what other people think to reduce their social anxiety.

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PSP 337: Ben Ellis’ Journey with OCD 

PSP 337: Ben Ellis’ Journey with OCD 

Ben was always an anxious child, but behind that anxiety lurked something else. It took a stay in a treatment center for eating disorders and eight therapists to finally get the help he truly needed, with the diagnosis he actually had – OCD. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, Ben walks us through his journey with OCD, from his inability to share his intrusive thoughts, to his unrelenting search to find an effective therapist trained in OCD. Ben is determined to be a part of the effort to remove the stigma attached to OCD, especially for men who all too often do not find help and strength complimentary words.

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The Easy and Hard Way to Get Relief from OCD

The Easy and Hard Way to Get Relief from OCD

Getting relief from OCD is not rocket science. OCD is driven by intrusive thoughts that make our kids want to do compulsions. These compulsions can be mental, physical or even just avoidance. The more they do these compulsions, the more their discomfort grows, the more intrusive thoughts they have. OCD is predictable in that way. No matter what thoughts or OCD themes they have, this pattern exists. The only way to break out of this pattern is to have them see the illusions OCD is feeding them and disrupt the pattern that OCD wants them to follow.

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How Does Your Child Handle Anxious Situations?

How Does Your Child Handle Anxious Situations?

Everyone handles anxious situations differently. Even kids with anxiety disorders have different ways of showing up to these situations. Some of it has to do with wiring and some of it has to do with skill building. Do they show up to anxious situations waiting to implode? Do they know it is not going to work out before they even begin? Do they agree with their anxious thoughts and team up with their anxiety? Or do they show up to anxious situations like it is a challenge, one they are willing to take on? Do they think that it could possibly work out? Do they recognize their anxious thoughts without owning them? Regardless of whether that is their natural inclination or not, they can train their brain to show up to these situations with an attitude that will help them. In this week’s Youtube video I talk to kids and teens about learning to shift their thoughts and attitude to one that is going to build their resilience and empowerment.

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PSP 335: Creating Natural Exposures to Crush Anxiety and OCD

PSP 335: Creating Natural Exposures to Crush Anxiety and OCD

Ultimately we want our kids to live a life where they walk towards their anxiety or OCD fears and discomfort. The more they build those anxiety and OCD skills, the more resilient they will become. Natural exposures can help on two fronts. If your child is not ready to commit to formal ERP (Exposure Response Prevention), the main approach in OCD treatment, doing natural exposures can be a great first step. Second, we want our kids to develop an organic, authentic way of dealing with anxiety or OCD. When they learn how to create natural exposures when faced with triggers, they learn how to live their life while keeping anxiety or OCD at bay. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore how natural exposures can help and how to get them started.

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Does Your Child’s OCD Make Them Touch or Tap Things?

Does Your Child’s OCD Make Them Touch or Tap Things?

OCD can make our kids do a ton of nonsensical things, including touching or tapping objects or people. This can happen due to all sorts of OCD intrusive thoughts. Perhaps something bad will happen if they don’t touch it. Maybe OCD says it won’t feel right until they do? Regardless of why OCD is demanding them to do it, how do they stop it? It comes down to how they would handle any OCD compulsion. OCD wants to be fed. It is an itch that wants to be scratched. The reality is, the more you scratch it, the more it itches. It is a vicious cycle that offers no long term relief. In this week’s YouTube video for kids and teens we talk about how to handle touching or tapping compulsions. Remember all compulsions can be handled in this same way.

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Teaching Our Kids How to Handle Discomfort is Key for Anxiety & OCD

Teaching Our Kids How to Handle Discomfort is Key for Anxiety & OCD

We all struggle to some degree when faced with discomfort. But when you have anxiety or OCD you are faced with discomfort on a completely different level. Anxious thoughts make us uncomfortable. Intrusive thoughts that are not satiated with a compulsion lead to discomfort. When we work on anxiety or OCD, a key component is building our muscles to tolerate discomfort. This can help us beyond our anxiety or OCD. Learning how to handle any discomfort can increase resilience. Life brings discomfort in many forms. Building resilience goes beyond anxiety or OCD. It can impact how we approach life, obstacles and challenges. It can make the difference between giving up and persevering. In this week’s YouTube video I talk to kids and teens about ways to build their ability to handle discomfort beyond anxiety or OCD.

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