Ask the Child Therapist Episode 99 Kids Edition: Is Your Child Quick To Beat Themselves Up? | Dealing with Negative Self-Talk

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 99 Kids Edition: Is Your Child Quick To Beat Themselves Up? | Dealing with Negative Self-Talk

 Don’t feel alone raising a child with anxiety or OCD. Tell me your biggest struggle and I will give you a video tip and resource guide based on your particular needs. YES! PLEASE HELP Is Your Child Quick To Beat Themselves Up? | Dealing with Negative Self-Talk Is your child quick to beat themselves up? Always taking the blame? Always self-hating? Many kids fill […]

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 98 Kids Edition: Is Bloody Mary Real? How to Help Kids with Legends

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 98 Kids Edition: Is Bloody Mary Real? How to Help Kids with Legends

 Don’t feel alone raising a child with anxiety or OCD. Tell me your biggest struggle and I will give you a video tip and resource guide based on your particular needs. YES! PLEASE HELP Is Bloody Mary Real? How to Help Kids with Legends As a child therapist I spend way too much time talking about Bloody Mary. This is an elusive ritual that […]

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 97 Kids Edition: Teaching Kids to Beat Fear by Moving Towards It.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 97 Kids Edition: Teaching Kids to Beat Fear by Moving Towards It.

If you have a child with Anxiety or OCD in your home, you probably also have fear living there as well. Fear loves to cozy up with our kids and boss them around. Sometimes it can seem too daunting to beat fear. Fear can seem omnipresent and all powerful to our little people (and sometimes ourselves as well).

I teach kids that they don’t have to take big swings at fear to win. Fear can swing back and knock them off their feet. But I do teach kids that they can push back. They can make fear wait. They can poke back at fear and move towards it instead of away from it.

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PSP 089: How Do I Help My Child with Perfectionism

PSP 089: How Do I Help My Child with Perfectionism

It can be so hard to watch your child beat themselves up. To watch them set standards to high, no one would be able to achieve them. To berate, insult and demean themselves. How are you supposed to hep a child with perfectionism?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 96 Kids Edition: Teach Kids How to Deal with Social Anxiety

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 96 Kids Edition: Teach Kids How to Deal with Social Anxiety

Social Anxiety can make a child or teen feel unwanted, ignored and judged. I know this because I was that kid once. Heck, I was that grownup once. It’s not fun and it can completely destroy your outlook on life. So, how do you teach your child how to deal with Social Anxiety?

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PSP 088: Three Things You Can Do When Parenting a Child with Social Anxiety

PSP 088: Three Things You Can Do When Parenting a Child with Social Anxiety

Having a child with Social Anxiety can be rough for the whole family. You might be dealing with a child who refuses to go to school. A child who spends much of their energy refusing to go places. A child who, if they could, would love to blend in with the wall.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 73 Kid Edition: Helping Kids with Social Anxiety

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 73 Kid Edition: Helping Kids with Social Anxiety

Social anxiety doesn’t announce itself. It creeps into your world and your life one paranoid, self-conscious thought at a time. What if they don’t like me? What if they are talking about me? Why don’t they include me. Kids with social anxiety can be consumed with these thoughts a hundred times a day. These thoughts not only stop any socialization in it’s tracks – but it can make a child want to hide in their home, avoiding judgement, criticism and rejection.

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PSP 057: The Impact of Technology on Kids with Anxiety and OCD: Interview with Dr. Adam Pletter

PSP 057: The Impact of Technology on Kids with Anxiety and OCD: Interview with Dr. Adam Pletter

Kids with anxiety and OCD often have an intimate connection with technology. It is where they go to distract themselves from their scary thoughts. It is where their obsessive nature takes over. It is the cause of huge meltdowns. It is the platform for google searches and rumination. It is the arena for bullying and low self-esteem.

What’s your child’s relationship with technology? Do you know how to harness its power for good? Technology is not the enemy. In fact, it can be a great resource if you know how to use it. Join me for an insightful discussion with Dr. Adam Pletter, a psychologist and national expert in technology.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 57: Social Anxiety in Teens: How Parents Can Help

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 57: Social Anxiety in Teens: How Parents Can Help

Maybe they are talking about me. Maybe they don’t like me. Maybe they are just being nice to me because they pity me. Maybe I don’t want to go to that party. Maybe I don’t want to talk in class. Maybe I’ll just stay home. Again. Social anxiety is never fun, but social anxiety in teens can not only be overwhelming, but can be completely depressing.

So as a parent watching this train wreck – how are you supposed to help? For starters, telling them to just go out there and make some more friends isn’t going to help. Here is what can…

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 39: The Most Common Reasons Why Kids are Afraid to Sleep

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 39: The Most Common Reasons Why Kids are Afraid to Sleep

It’s bedtime. You are arming yourself for battle. You muster up all your energy. It’s going to be a long night. You are already running on fumes from the frequent interruptions in your sleep the night before. How long can you function like this? What on earth can make a child so afraid to sleep? Especially a child who has experienced nothing but security and stability?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 38: Does Your Child Have a Fear of Animals or Insects – Learn How to Help Them.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 38: Does Your Child Have a Fear of Animals or Insects – Learn How to Help Them.

Some kids beg their parents for a pet. Some kids love to dig for bugs. In your home, dogs and bugs are what keep your child up at night. Play dates are dictated by the size and existence of a friend’s pet. A relaxing day by the pool can be ruined by a traveling bee. Is this going to pass or will your child have a fear of animals and insects their whole life?

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PSP 026: When Sounds Cause a Child’s Brain to Rage: Understanding Misophonia Triggers

PSP 026: When Sounds Cause a Child’s Brain to Rage: Understanding Misophonia Triggers

It’s dinner time. You prepare for battle. You put the spaghetti down and find yourself tensing up. It doesn’t take long. One slurp. One fork scraping teeth. The screaming begins. The doors get slammed. Dinner is over. This happens every night. But, it’s not just dinner. There are many other sounds that cause your child to rage out of control. Misophonia has been destroying the peace in your house. Misophonia triggers are everywhere.

Misophonia triggers aren’t about noises being perceived as too loud (hyperacusis), it is about pattern-based noises triggering the limbic system, causing suffers to instantly feel rage, disgust and anxiety when exposed to certain noises.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 37: Helping Kids Who Have a Fear of Germs

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 37: Helping Kids Who Have a Fear of Germs

Your child is paralyzed. She stares at the bathroom door unable to go through. She grabs the door handle with her shirt, fumbling to get it open. You’ve watched her wash her hands until they are raw. It seems like most questions that come out of her mouth are about germs. What is going on with her? This new fear of germs is taking over her life. How can you help?

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PSP 024: How We Teach Our Kids to Not Trust Their Gut Feeling

PSP 024: How We Teach Our Kids to Not Trust Their Gut Feeling

The hair on the back of her neck is standing up. Her stomach feels weird. She doesn’t like how he is staring at her. She has a weird gut feeling, but she doesn’t know what it is. “Go hug your Uncle Victor,” her mom says. She nervously shakes her head no. “Don’t be rude! Go hug him!” her mom demands.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 35: Teaching Kids Social Skills | Helping Kids Thrive When They Have No Social Skills.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 35: Teaching Kids Social Skills | Helping Kids Thrive When They Have No Social Skills.

Your daughter is a leg hugger, a wallflower, a blank staring mute when others are around. You watch as her personality literally melts away from her when she’s in public. Where did your crazy, free spirited child go? And who is this wilting flower that took her place? Your son has no filter. You cringe with anticipation at what he’ll say next. Personal space isn’t something he values – not his, not yours. You can see him rubbing people the wrong way, as he stands there clueless as to why they aren’t laughing back. There is no learning curve. You watch him destroy friendship after friendship. When a child has no social skills it can be painful to watch. Sometimes cringe worthy. Not everyone is born with social skills. It is a skill just like anything else and some kids need some social “tutoring.”

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