Helping Kids Who Procrastinate “I’ll do it later.” That’s normally how it starts. “I have plenty of time.” That’s how it continues. “I can’t do it! I don’t have enough time.” That’s how it ends. Welcome to the world of procrastination. Anxious kids are either one extreme or the other. Kids who procrastinate want to kick the can down the road until the road comes […]
How to Help Kids with OCD Checking Behavior It starts off with a little nag. Did you do it? Are you sure? The uncertainty grows. The nagging impulse grows. Check! Check again! Until eventually the child caves and checks. But OCD checking behavior is a trap. Mental quick sand, I like to call it. It catches people in a vicious loop that they can’t get […]
I have gotten many requests from kids on my Youtube channel to make a video on how to talk to their parents about anxiety or OCD. This breaks my heart. Kids are struggling and suffering silently. Perhaps there are loving, caring parents nipping at the bit to help, if they only knew?
It was bedtime. While most parents were breathing a sigh of relief and doing a mental countdown, I was starting to tense up. I was tired. No, I was exhausted. I hadn’t had a good night sleep in months. We were on a bad run.
When your body is changing, your voice is changing, your mood is changing- it can be too much change at once! No wonder why you hear so many anxious kids say, “I hate puberty!”
Is Your Child Quick To Beat Themselves Up? | Dealing with Negative Self-Talk Is your child quick to beat themselves up? Always taking the blame? Always self-hating? Many kids fill themselves with guilt, shame and anger when they make mistakes. Regardless of the situation, they turn their anger and disappointment inward. It’s difficult to watch kids be so hard on themselves. It’s hard to hear […]
Is Bloody Mary Real? How to Help Kids with Legends As a child therapist I spend way too much time talking about Bloody Mary. This is an elusive ritual that is supposed to produce a screaming bloody ghost from a mirror. It is a urban legend that continues to torture kids decade after decade. Kids all want to know – Is Bloody Mary real? To […]
If you have a child with Anxiety or OCD in your home, you probably also have fear living there as well. Fear loves to cozy up with our kids and boss them around. Sometimes it can seem too daunting to beat fear. Fear can seem omnipresent and all powerful to our little people (and sometimes ourselves as well).
I teach kids that they don’t have to take big swings at fear to win. Fear can swing back and knock them off their feet. But I do teach kids that they can push back. They can make fear wait. They can poke back at fear and move towards it instead of away from it.
It can be so hard to watch your child beat themselves up. To watch them set standards to high, no one would be able to achieve them. To berate, insult and demean themselves. How are you supposed to hep a child with perfectionism?
Kids with anxiety and OCD often have an intimate connection with technology. It is where they go to distract themselves from their scary thoughts. It is where their obsessive nature takes over. It is the cause of huge meltdowns. It is the platform for google searches and rumination. It is the arena for bullying and low self-esteem.
What’s your child’s relationship with technology? Do you know how to harness its power for good? Technology is not the enemy. In fact, it can be a great resource if you know how to use it. Join me for an insightful discussion with Dr. Adam Pletter, a psychologist and national expert in technology.