Ask the Child Therapist Episode 33: Why Kids Talk Back and How to Make it Stop!

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 33: Why Kids Talk Back and How to Make it Stop!

Your child screams, “I hate you!” She rolls her eyes and tells you, “No!” You feel your composure slipping away as she spits out her final words. In one fell swoop she has made you feel enraged and completely ineffective. You wonder, where did I go wrong? And why on earth does she feel she can talk back to me?

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PSP 021: How to Discipline an Anxious Kid and Not Walk on Eggshells!

PSP 021: How to Discipline an Anxious Kid and Not Walk on Eggshells!

You tell your child to pick up their clothes and they crumble to the ground. “Why are you shouting at me!” They exclaim. Seriously? You just asked them to pick up their clothes. It seems like you can’t even redirect your anxious kid without them imploding. So what are you supposed to do? Not discipline? Walk on eggshells? Is that helpful or hurtful to them long-term? 

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Are Fidget Spinners Really Helpful for Anxious Kids or is it Just a Fad?

Are Fidget Spinners Really Helpful for Anxious Kids or is it Just a Fad?

It started about a month ago. My daughter came home from school and wanted a “fidget spinner.” She thought it might help with her anxiety. I had heard of fidget toys, but never a fidget spinner. As a child therapist I am normally ahead of the curve with kid crazes, but not this one.

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PSP 015: The Link Between Sensory Processing and Child Anxiety

PSP 015: The Link Between Sensory Processing and Child Anxiety

In this episode I talk about the overlap between sensory processing issues and child anxiety. Many anxious children also have sensory issues as well.

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Parenting a Child with OCD? Avoid Making These 5 Common Mistakes

Parenting a Child with OCD? Avoid Making These 5 Common Mistakes

Your child is doing it again. They are walking in a weird pattern. They are paralyzed in front of the sink. They are asking the same question over and over again, and you can’t make them stop. You’ve poured over all the typical parenting books, but this chapter is definitely missing. What are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to help your child get unstuck? It is painful to watch any child with OCD, but when it’s your own, it’s excruciating.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 24: Tired of Your Kids Fighting? Try This.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 24: Tired of Your Kids Fighting? Try This.

It sounds like World War 3 in the other room. Words are flying. Fists are flying. You hope one of your offspring will survive. The sound of my kids fighting is like nails to the chalkboard. “Make it stop!” I plead to no one in particular. Even if I said it out loud, I doubt any of them would be able to hear me over the blood curdling screams.

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PSP 012: 5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem

PSP 012: 5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem

In this episode of the AT Parenting Survival Podcast we talk about the many “good” things we do as parents that can actually hurt a child’s self-confidence and self-esteem. Here are five of them and what to do instead!

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3 Ways to Stop Whining and Baby Talk Dead in Its Tracks. Wouldn’t That be Nice?

3 Ways to Stop Whining and Baby Talk Dead in Its Tracks. Wouldn’t That be Nice?

“But mama I no want to go…” your child pleads with you, his bottom lip puffed out for effect.
“You have to go,” you firmly state.
“Noooo. I don’t wannnnt toooo!” Your child whines.
You know what will happen next. You’ve done this dance before. And frankly, you are tired of dancing. You want your child to stop whining. You want your child to talk like he isn’t still in diapers. You can’t stomach anymore baby talk and the whining is slowly crushing your soul. “Make it stop!” You scream silently in your head.

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Signs of Selective Mutism: When It Isn’t Just Shyness

Signs of Selective Mutism: When It Isn’t Just Shyness

The lady at the cash register smiles at your daughter. You think to yourself, “please don’t try to talk to her. Please just scan the next item.” But all your internal pleading falls on deaf ears. “What’s your name sweetie?” the checker asks in your daughter’s direction. Your daughter stares at the lady with big brown eyes. She blinks once, she blinks twice. There is a visual stare down that seems to last forever. And then there is the awkward silence that always follows. You’ve been here before. Maybe not in line 3 at the local grocery store, but yes, you know exactly how this is going to play out before it even begins.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 22: How to Get Kids to Do Homework without a Battle!

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 22: How to Get Kids to Do Homework without a Battle!

It is that time again. Didn’t we just do this twenty-four hours ago? Your heart starts to beat a bit faster as you prepare for the nightly battle that is about to ensue. Getting your kids to do homework is akin to getting your wisdom teeth pulled and frankly – you rather skip both. “I don’t want to do it!” your daughter screams. “That’s not how she taught us! You don’t get it.” complains your son. Since when did getting your kids to do homework become such a ridiculous chore? Don’t let homework battles destroy your family’s peace. Wave the white flag and take a break to watch this.

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PSP 010: Parenting and Sleep Problems | Addressing bedtime fears

PSP 010: Parenting and Sleep Problems | Addressing bedtime fears

One of the biggest parenting issues I see in my therapy practice is sleep problems. Children are often afraid at bedtime. Learn what works and what doesn’t!

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Do You Want to Know How to Get Your Kids to Stop Lying? Don’t Do These 7 Things!

Do You Want to Know How to Get Your Kids to Stop Lying? Don’t Do These 7 Things!

He stares directly into your eyes and says, “I didn’t do it.” Chocolate smeared all over his face.

She said she just brushed her teeth, but you glare at her as you hold up her dry toothbrush. How can your kids lie directly to your face? Are you raising little sociopaths? Are they doomed to be pathological liars? Most likely not. Kids all have varying degrees of honesty. Some are super honest and others are…well, not so honest. But you can help more than you think.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 21: What Causes Bullying | And How to Deal.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 21: What Causes Bullying | And How to Deal.

Kids can be unbelievably cruel. What causes bullying? I will share what bullies reveal in therapy and what they say you should do to make them stop.

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5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem and Self-Esteem Activities for Kids that Actually Work!

5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem and Self-Esteem Activities for Kids that Actually Work!

We all want our kids to be the best version of themselves. Sometimes we want this so badly, we inadvertently create the opposite. Sometimes we need to take a step back and assess our own behavior. Learn what you should do and what you shouldn’t do! Also, explore self esteem activities for kids that actually works!

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 20: Teaching Feelings to Kids Who Struggle to Express Emotions

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 20:  Teaching Feelings to Kids Who Struggle to Express Emotions

Do your kids shutdown when they’re upset? Teaching feelings and emotional intelligence to kids isn’t always a nice thing to do, for some it is a necessity.

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