PSP 070: When Anxiety & OCD Starve our Kids: ARFID and Restrictive Eating

PSP 070: When Anxiety & OCD Starve our Kids: ARFID and Restrictive Eating

There is nothing worse than watching your child starve to death. It can creep up slowly or happen overnight. Meals are missed. Favorite foods are no longer favored. Plate after plate, meal after meal goes untouched. Perhaps initially you chalk it up to “picky eating” but then you realize it is something much more. Welcome to the world of Avoidant/ Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, also known as ARFID.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 78 Kid Edition: The Biggest Lie Child OCD Tells Kids: You Can Stop Bad Things From Happening

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 78 Kid Edition: The Biggest Lie Child OCD Tells Kids: You Can Stop Bad Things From Happening

Your child can’t wear certain clothes. They have to walk in certain patterns. They touch here. They touch there. All in an effort to ward off something bad from happening. Are they crazy? Psychotic. Absolutely not. They know these behaviors are irrational. They get that wearing a shirt isn’t going to ward off bad luck. And yet, they feel an intense urge to do it anyway. This is the trap child OCD sets for our kids. This is the prison our children live in.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 77 Kid Edition: Do You Have a Child Who Pulls Hair or Picks Skin? Have Them Watch This.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 77 Kid Edition: Do You Have a Child Who Pulls Hair or Picks Skin? Have Them Watch This.

You look over at your daughter and she is pulling her hair out one by one. Your son picks his scabs until they bleed. How are you supposed to stop a child who pulls hair or picks skin? You can’t be with them twenty-four hours a day. You’ve tried every approach, and nothing is working. Join the club. Hair pulling (Trichotillomania) and skin picking (Excoriation Disorder) are two very difficult Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs) that are hard to stop.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 76 Kid Edition: How to Help Kids with OCD Stop Obsessive Thoughts

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 76 Kid Edition: How to Help Kids with OCD Stop Obsessive Thoughts

   This page is brought to you by nOCD. Download this mobile tool for free! How to Help Kids with OCD Stop Obsessive Thoughts Your child is consumed with upsetting thoughts. You have tried to ensure them they are okay. You’ve tried to distract them. But no matter how hard you try, you are not able to help your child. Night after night, day after […]

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PSP 067: Harm OCD: What it is and How to Help Kids Who Have It.

PSP 067: Harm OCD: What it is and How to Help Kids Who Have It.

Your child is bombarded with “bad thoughts.” They are asking you bizarre questions that are stopping you dead in your tracks. What if I hurt myself? What if I hurt you? What if I set the house on fire? What if I jump in front of a train? What if I left a scratch on your car? They riddle every conversation with apologies and more questions. They are consumed with worry. They don’t want to have these thoughts. They don’t want to hurt themselves or other people. But they can’t make these thoughts stop. These thoughts scare you. These thoughts scare them. Welcome to the world of Harm OCD. Harm OCD is often misunderstood and misdiagnosed.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 75 Kids Edition: Separation Anxiety Impacts Kids of All Ages: How to Help

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 75 Kids Edition: Separation Anxiety Impacts Kids of All Ages: How to Help

Clinical Separation anxiety is not about age. It isn’t a baby thing – it is an anxiety thing. In fact many kids with separation anxiety don’t develop this issue until they are past puberty. Imagine if your mind told you that any separation, distance or lack of communication can put you and the person you love in jeopardy. Imagine if every time you couldn’t reach your loved one you wholeheartedly believed they were dead. Imagine if every time you weren’t with the one you loved you believed you weren’t safe. Separation anxiety can cause palatable fear within a child. It can make a child feel insecure and vulnerable. It can hold a child back and stagnant any emotional growth.

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PSP 066: What to Do When Your Child’s Therapy isn’t Progressing

PSP 066: What to Do When Your Child’s Therapy isn’t Progressing

“How did it go?” You ask your child after yet another therapy session. “Fine.” Your child flatly replies. It’s been months and it is always the same thing. No reaction after therapy. No behavioral changes at home. Is your child’s therapy working? Are there goals? What is going on in there?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 74 Kid Edition: OCD and Anxiety Games, Tricks & lies: Teaching Kids to Not Fall for Them!

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 74 Kid Edition: OCD and Anxiety Games, Tricks & lies: Teaching Kids to Not Fall for Them!

Anxiety and OCD fill your child’s mind with lies and games. It will often tell your child that no one will understand. That no one will help. That parents, relatives, therapists and friends can’t help – won’t help. That they are not on the child’s “side.” It is “us against them” anxiety and OCD will whisper. Keep it to yourself. No one will understand. People will think you are crazy, weird, disturbed. These OCD and anxiety games, tricks and lies will deflate kids and suck out any trace of motivation they might have had to crush these issues.

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PSP 065: Motivating Kids to Crush Anxiety or OCD When They Have No Fight in Them

PSP 065: Motivating Kids to Crush Anxiety or OCD When They Have No Fight in Them

You’ve identified your child’s issue. They have anxiety. Maybe they have OCD. You’ve soaked up every article, book and podcast on the topic. You painstakingly located a therapist to work with your child. Everything is in place – except your child’s motivation. Why doesn’t your child want to work on their issues? How do you get them motivated to crush anxiety or OCD?

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PSP 064: Answering Questions About Medicating Kids for Anxiety or OCD

PSP 064: Answering Questions About Medicating Kids for Anxiety or OCD

One of the hardest decisions for a parent is whether or not to medicate a child with anxiety or OCD. For many parents who aren’t raising a child with anxiety or OCD this may be a no brainer. But when your child is paralyzed with fear, unable to eat, unable to go to school, is scrubbing their hands until they bleed – you might have a different perspective on medicating kids with anxiety or OCD.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 71 Kids Edition: How to Help Kids Handle Rage Caused by Anxiety or OCD

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 71 Kids Edition: How to Help Kids Handle Rage Caused by Anxiety or OCD

Imagine you are in a room full of snakes. You are told to go to the other side of the room to take the trash out. You might be pretty oppositional about the request. You might shout back. You might even go ballistic. Anxiety or OCD can feel the same way. Our kids are under an enormous amount of invisible pressure. They are often going through their school day full of metaphorical land mines. All too often they take this built up stress with them and explode in the comfort of their own home.

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PSP 061 : An Interview with Chris Baier, the Producer of Unstuck: An OCD Kids Movie

PSP 061 : An Interview with Chris Baier, the Producer of Unstuck: An OCD Kids Movie

I’m embarrassed. I’m weird. I’m crazy. These are statements I hear every week from kids with OCD. Kids who think they are alone. Kids who don’t understand their disorder. Kids who don’t realize that there are kids all over the world, just like them. Chris Baier understands this struggle all too well. When his daughter Vanessa was just nine she changed from a happy-go-lucky child to a child filled with worries and compulsions. Vanessa also felt alone. She felt like no one else understood what she was going through.

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PSP 060: Keep Calm & Carry On While Raising Kids with Anxiety and OCD

PSP 060: Keep Calm & Carry On While Raising Kids with Anxiety and OCD

When I stare at my son spit a mouthful of food out and discretely tuck it under his plate my heart stops. When I spot my youngest daughter picking at her skin until it bleeds my stomach starts to hurt. When my kids stay up late at night because they are fearful they will be killed if they fall sleep my heart sinks. Anxiety and OCD are hard to stomach. It is hard to watch our children struggle and not allow it to be OUR struggle. To not allow it to be our defeat. How can it not be? But if you want to survive this whole business of raising kids with anxiety and OCD, perspective and separation are key.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 70 Kid Edition: Helping Kids Understand Scrupulosity OCD: When OCD Gives you Bad Thoughts

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 70 Kid Edition: Helping Kids Understand Scrupulosity OCD: When OCD Gives you Bad Thoughts

Doubt is a big part of OCD. It makes you doubt you are clean. It makes you doubt you are safe. But imagine if the doubt OCD brings makes you doubt who you are and what you are capable of doing? Welcome to the world of Scrupulosity OCD,sometimes referred to as Moral OCD, Religious OCD or even Bad Thought OCD. What if I become a killer? What if I am a bad kid? What if I hurt someone? What if I hurt myself? What if I drink, smoke, do drugs, get tattoos?! What if I turn into the worst version of myself? Will I go to Hell? Will you leave me? Never speak to me again? Scrupulosity OCD is one of the hardest OCD themes to cope with because it feels so real. Because it attacks the very essence of who the person is and who they want to become. The worst part about it – most parents and children don’t even know they have OCD.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 67 Kids Edition: When Anxiety Makes You Feel Sick: How to Deal with Nausea and the Fear of Throwing Up

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 67 Kids Edition: When Anxiety Makes You Feel Sick: How to Deal with Nausea and the Fear of Throwing Up

It might seem like your child is nauseous every waking moment. They are getting ready for school – they feel sick. It is time for bed – they feel sick. You might have dragged them to every stomach specialist in town, only to hear those dreaded words, “I think you should take her to a therapist.” Relax, your child isn’t making it up. They aren’t trying to manipulate you either. Yes, they are doubled over in pain before school. And yes, they seem to be completely fine after you let them stay home. But…anxiety can look that way. The fear of throwing up and the nausea that goes with it is very real. It is just caused by anxiety, not some stomach bug.

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