Your Kids Will Survive If…

Your Kids Will Survive If…

Your Kids Will Survive If… How many of us second guess our parenting every day? How many of us go to bed feeling guilty or inadequate? The madness has got to stop! I talk to awesome parents every day who think they are failing at this whole parenting thing. They aren’t – and you aren’t either. We are all doing the best we can. So, […]

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Consequences Not Working? This Might be the Problem.

Consequences Not Working? This Might be the Problem.

Consequences not working? Are you pulling your hair out wondering why your consequences aren’t working? You are not alone. This is the most popular complaint I hear in my therapy practice. “We’ve tried everything.” I am told. “Nothing works.” Usually, as we dig further, this just isn’t the case. Delivering effective consequences can be a major challenge. Kids are tuned into every crack and inconsistency. […]

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How to Help Kids with an “I Can’t Do It!” Attitude

How to Help Kids with an “I Can’t Do It!” Attitude

There are two types of toddlers. The “I do it myself!” toddler and the “I can’t do it!” toddler. Some kids evolve and develop a new go get ‘em attitude as they get older, but some kids don’t. If you have an “I can’t do it!” kid you are probably having some daily struggles. Getting dressed, doing homework and cleaning up can be major challenges. […]

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How 5 Seconds Will Make You Feel Like a Better Mom

How 5 Seconds Will Make You Feel Like a Better Mom

I invited Julie McCorkle from Jules and Co to teach us how to take five seconds out of our day to feel like a better mom. I love her ideas! Have you ever had one of those days? Your time is running short, your kids are running the halls, and you are running out of patience? We’ve all been there, it’s part of the package […]

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Why I Know My Children are Safe When I Can’t Protect Them

Why I Know My Children are Safe When I Can’t Protect Them

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Wearsafe for IZEA. All opinions are 100% mine. I often like to cover child safety topics on Anxious Toddlers. We recently talked about teaching our kids safety tips beyond stranger danger. This was a hugely popular article because as parents, we all strive to keep our kids safe. I am often approached to do […]

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Help! What’s the Difference Between Montessori, Waldorf and Reggio?

Help! What’s the Difference Between Montessori, Waldorf and Reggio?

It seems like parenting comes with a zillion decisions as soon as a baby pops out of our womb. Do we want to breastfeed or bottle feed? Do we want the baby to co-sleep or sleep in a crib? Are we going to go with cloth diapers or store bought diapers. Just when we thought we’ve escaped the flood of decisions – we enter toddlerhood. Are we going to send our toddlers to […]

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5 Unrealistic Expectations People Place on Kids with ADHD

5 Unrealistic Expectations People Place on Kids with ADHD

Kids with ADHD If you are raising or working with kids with ADHD you probably have realized that your typical approaches aren’t working with these kids. I greet exhausted and frustrated parents every week in my therapy office. I hear things like, “He just won’t listen!” And “If it is a video game – he can focus just fine!” [To listen to my podcast episode on this […]

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5 Survival Tips to Follow When Starting a Stepfamily

5 Survival Tips to Follow When Starting a Stepfamily

Having a stepfamily is more common than you may think. According to the Stepfamily Foundation, half of the nation’s 60 million children under the age of 13 are currently living with one biological parent and that parent’s current partner. That is a huge number! Author Michael H. Popkins, PhD offers us some key points to remember when starting a stepfamily. #1. Don’t minimize the loss. The […]

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Don’t be Clueless. Learn the Possible Signs of Sexual Abuse

Don’t be Clueless. Learn the Possible Signs of Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse You have concerns. You have suspicions. But, how can you be sure? You want that definitive list. Those definitive signs and behaviors to confirm or disconfirm your worst beliefs about sexual abuse. Unfortunately, no one can do that for you – not even this article. Sexual abuse isn’t like a disease, with its obvious checklist of symptoms. Kids respond and react differently to […]

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What to Do When Your Blended Family Won’t Blend

What to Do When Your Blended Family Won’t Blend

You finally met the one. This time it is going to last. It is like you got a second chance at life. And then trouble arrives in paradise. Your kids have an issue with your new love. Your new love struggles with your kids. All the kids fight. What once seemed so right, is now seeming impossibly wrong. Your blended family won’t blend. How do you […]

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5 Bad Things Good Parents Do

5 Bad Things Good Parents Do

If you’ve heard “None of my friend’s parents do this!” at least once – you are doing a great job. Parenting is a messy job. Your kids will constantly tell you that you are making bad parenting choices. If they are good, they will get you to question your sanity and your parenting at times. Are you being too harsh? Are you doing bad things […]

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Ten Behaviors That Would Worry Even a Child Therapist!

Ten Behaviors That Would Worry Even a Child Therapist!

As parents we worry, that is what most of us do. But how do you differentiate what behaviors are common and what behaviors are something to worry about? Sometimes it is hard to tell. In my practice parents voice many concerns, many of which are easy to address and are typical for the developmental phase their kids are in. Some behaviors, however, warrant some serious […]

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The 10 Worst Mistakes Parents Make When Getting a Divorce

The 10 Worst Mistakes Parents Make When Getting a Divorce

Divorce is hard on kids. This is not earth shattering news. But, kids are resilient. I have seen many kids thrive and adapt in my therapy practice. I have also seen kids plummet with no sign of resurfacing. Grades tank. Friends are lost. Interest in hobbies fall by the wayside. So why do some kids adapt and others suffer permanent damage? Parents. It is all […]

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Kids Reveal the Worst Parenting Mistakes: Do You Make the List?

Kids Reveal the Worst Parenting Mistakes: Do You Make the List?

As a child therapist, I get to talk to a lot of parents. I mean tons. They talked to me about their kids, about their lives and most importantly about their parenting. I then meet their kids. I get a rare inside peek into the kid’s perspective. What do the kids find effective? What do they secretly admit doesn’t work? What do they wish their […]

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How to Calm First Day of School Worries

How to Calm First Day of School Worries

You survived. It was touch and go at times, but you made it through another summer with the kids. As you excitedly scamper around buying backpacks, school supplies and lunch boxes – your kids may be more than a little less enthused. Some might even be developing a knot in their stomachs as the idea of a new school year approaches. First day of school […]

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