There are so many things we want to control in our lives. None of us want to die, get sick, get rejected, get judged, get hurt. None of us want to be overwhelmed with feelings of hurt, harm, embarrassment or disgust. None of us want to second guess our actions, behaviors or future.
OCD is tricky. It can seem easy to outsmart. Maybe if I just argue with it, I can crush it with facts. Maybe if I just take preventative measures, it will leave me alone. Maybe if I just do what it wants, it will finally go away.
OCD can be stigmatizing enough, but when you add sexual themes it can add another layer of guilt and shame. It can also make parents and even therapists uncomfortable! How are you supposed to deal with a sexual intrusive thought that makes you squirm? What if your child’s lack of motivation is due to the embarrassment over the content of their thoughts?
There is nothing worse than finally getting rid of one OCD theme, only to have a brand new one take its place. Often this is the time when kids and even parents start to lose hope. Even though this can be so disappointing, it isn’t necessary that anyone give up hope. In fact, having new themes pop up is no indication that the skills and tools aren’t working. Believe it or not, sometimes it is a sign they are working well
There are many things that can put a strain on marriages. Once the honeymoon is over it can be a struggle to agree on finances, household chores and parenting. When anxiety or OCD is in the mix it can make a hard situation even harder.
Many of us are afraid to do or see certain things. That’s a human experience. But some of us are paralyzed by that fear. A phobia around anything can have the power to dominate our lives. It can dictate what we do and how we do it.
Helping Kids with OCD Who have to Read and Reread OCD can impact so much of our children’s lives, including their ability to read. Often this is missed completely or misdiagnosed as a learning issue. OCD can make people feel that they might not have “fully” understood what they are reading. Or perhaps it makes them feel like they didn’t really read a sentence and […]
Helping Kids with OCD Who have a Hard Time Showering OCD likes to disrupt anything in its wake, including the things we must do on a daily basis. OCD can make it hard to eat, go to the bathroom and especially shower. This happens for a variety of reasons depending on the person’s OCD themes. In this week’s Youtube video I talk about how to […]
Helping the Siblings of Kids with Anxiety or OCD Anxiety and OCD don’t just live within our child, it lives within our home. It impacts everyone in the family, including the siblings. What happens to the sibling when all eyes are focused on the child with anxiety or OCD? What happens to them when there are big meltdowns, panic attacks, and overwhelm. What happens when […]
How to Stop Panic Attacks from Ruling Your Child’s Life Sometimes we focus so much on how to stop panic attacks that we miss an even bigger problem, avoidance. What’s even more debilitating than panic attacks is the panic around having them. Panic attacks create a knee-jerk reaction of avoidance. They might avoid going to school, going out with friends, or going to the movies. […]
Are We Prematurely Rescuing Our Anxious Kids? It is so hard to see our kids struggle. As parents, many of us know what things might trigger our child’s anxiety. How often do we flinch before they feel anxious? How often do we swoop in and remove the trigger before our child experiences it? How often do we catch them before they even fall? I know […]
Beating OCD or Anxiety Starts with Accepting This So much of anxiety or OCD is the illusion of control. If I do this, then nothing bad will happen. If I wash enough, I won’t get contaminated. If I say this in my head, the discomfort will go away. If I ask this question (again), then I’ll feel reassured. The only problem is we don’t have […]
Helping Kids Discover Core Fears Driving Anxiety or OCD Our kids can have a million different intrusive thoughts, anxious feelings and compulsive behaviors. But often there will be a core fear that groups these fears together. It is important to note, that regardless of what theme or core fear a child has, the framework of how to address OCD or anxiety is exactly the same. […]