PSP 033: How to Help Kids Who are Afraid of Storms

PSP 033: How to Help Kids Who are Afraid of Storms

Your son peeks his head out the window. His face pales. “Mom, is it supposed to rain today?” You look out the window. You see only one lonely cloud in the sky. “I don’t think so.” You respond. But you realize too late that your answer only fueled his concern. “You’re not sure?” He whines. You take a deep breath and prepare for the unraveling to begin. He does not disappoint. You know lots of kids are afraid of storms, but your child takes his fear to another level.

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PSP 031: How to Help Socially Anxious Kids

PSP 031: How to Help Socially Anxious Kids

Another school year is upon us. You hold your breath. Who will your socially anxious child cling to this year? No matter how much you encourage your child to make lots of friends, inevitably your child is like Velcro to one kid the entire year. You know your child is socially anxious, but how are you supposed to help? What is the problem with making more than one friend? After all, you don’t remember struggling like this. Are there more things you can be doing?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 41: Preparing Anxious Kids for the First Day of Kindergarten

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 41: Preparing Anxious Kids for the First Day of Kindergarten

It seems like just yesterday you were wiping her bottom and picking up Cheerios off the floor. And now you are scrolling down the grocery aisle going through the list of school supplies, trying to find an 8 pack of washable markers. When did this happen? When you look at your daughter she still looks so young. Is she ready for the stream of kids and chaos school will bring? Is there anything you should be doing to prepare her for the first day of kindergarten?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 40: How to Help Kids Who are Scared to Sleep

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 40: How to Help Kids Who are Scared to Sleep

It’s bedtime and instead of winding down, your house is winding up. “I’m scared,” you hear. “I’m too scared to sleep!” You hear over and over again. Your child pleads. Can they sleep with you? Can you sleep with them? Can they sleep on the couch next to you? You’ve tried everything. Threatening, negotiating, sympathizing…nothing works. Are you doomed to a life of sleepless nights or can this be fixed?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 39: The Most Common Reasons Why Kids are Afraid to Sleep

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 39: The Most Common Reasons Why Kids are Afraid to Sleep

It’s bedtime. You are arming yourself for battle. You muster up all your energy. It’s going to be a long night. You are already running on fumes from the frequent interruptions in your sleep the night before. How long can you function like this? What on earth can make a child so afraid to sleep? Especially a child who has experienced nothing but security and stability?

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 38: Does Your Child Have a Fear of Animals or Insects – Learn How to Help Them.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 38: Does Your Child Have a Fear of Animals or Insects – Learn How to Help Them.

Some kids beg their parents for a pet. Some kids love to dig for bugs. In your home, dogs and bugs are what keep your child up at night. Play dates are dictated by the size and existence of a friend’s pet. A relaxing day by the pool can be ruined by a traveling bee. Is this going to pass or will your child have a fear of animals and insects their whole life?

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PSP 026: When Sounds Cause a Child’s Brain to Rage: Understanding Misophonia Triggers

PSP 026: When Sounds Cause a Child’s Brain to Rage: Understanding Misophonia Triggers

It’s dinner time. You prepare for battle. You put the spaghetti down and find yourself tensing up. It doesn’t take long. One slurp. One fork scraping teeth. The screaming begins. The doors get slammed. Dinner is over. This happens every night. But, it’s not just dinner. There are many other sounds that cause your child to rage out of control. Misophonia has been destroying the peace in your house. Misophonia triggers are everywhere.

Misophonia triggers aren’t about noises being perceived as too loud (hyperacusis), it is about pattern-based noises triggering the limbic system, causing suffers to instantly feel rage, disgust and anxiety when exposed to certain noises.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 37: Helping Kids Who Have a Fear of Germs

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 37: Helping Kids Who Have a Fear of Germs

Your child is paralyzed. She stares at the bathroom door unable to go through. She grabs the door handle with her shirt, fumbling to get it open. You’ve watched her wash her hands until they are raw. It seems like most questions that come out of her mouth are about germs. What is going on with her? This new fear of germs is taking over her life. How can you help?

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PSP 024: How We Teach Our Kids to Not Trust Their Gut Feeling

PSP 024: How We Teach Our Kids to Not Trust Their Gut Feeling

The hair on the back of her neck is standing up. Her stomach feels weird. She doesn’t like how he is staring at her. She has a weird gut feeling, but she doesn’t know what it is. “Go hug your Uncle Victor,” her mom says. She nervously shakes her head no. “Don’t be rude! Go hug him!” her mom demands.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 35: Teaching Kids Social Skills | Helping Kids Thrive When They Have No Social Skills.

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 35: Teaching Kids Social Skills | Helping Kids Thrive When They Have No Social Skills.

Your daughter is a leg hugger, a wallflower, a blank staring mute when others are around. You watch as her personality literally melts away from her when she’s in public. Where did your crazy, free spirited child go? And who is this wilting flower that took her place? Your son has no filter. You cringe with anticipation at what he’ll say next. Personal space isn’t something he values – not his, not yours. You can see him rubbing people the wrong way, as he stands there clueless as to why they aren’t laughing back. There is no learning curve. You watch him destroy friendship after friendship. When a child has no social skills it can be painful to watch. Sometimes cringe worthy. Not everyone is born with social skills. It is a skill just like anything else and some kids need some social “tutoring.”

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3 Ways to Stop Whining and Baby Talk Dead in Its Tracks. Wouldn’t That be Nice?

3 Ways to Stop Whining and Baby Talk Dead in Its Tracks. Wouldn’t That be Nice?

“But mama I no want to go…” your child pleads with you, his bottom lip puffed out for effect.
“You have to go,” you firmly state.
“Noooo. I don’t wannnnt toooo!” Your child whines.
You know what will happen next. You’ve done this dance before. And frankly, you are tired of dancing. You want your child to stop whining. You want your child to talk like he isn’t still in diapers. You can’t stomach anymore baby talk and the whining is slowly crushing your soul. “Make it stop!” You scream silently in your head.

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 22: How to Get Kids to Do Homework without a Battle!

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 22: How to Get Kids to Do Homework without a Battle!

It is that time again. Didn’t we just do this twenty-four hours ago? Your heart starts to beat a bit faster as you prepare for the nightly battle that is about to ensue. Getting your kids to do homework is akin to getting your wisdom teeth pulled and frankly – you rather skip both. “I don’t want to do it!” your daughter screams. “That’s not how she taught us! You don’t get it.” complains your son. Since when did getting your kids to do homework become such a ridiculous chore? Don’t let homework battles destroy your family’s peace. Wave the white flag and take a break to watch this.

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Do You Want to Know How to Get Your Kids to Stop Lying? Don’t Do These 7 Things!

Do You Want to Know How to Get Your Kids to Stop Lying? Don’t Do These 7 Things!

He stares directly into your eyes and says, “I didn’t do it.” Chocolate smeared all over his face.

She said she just brushed her teeth, but you glare at her as you hold up her dry toothbrush. How can your kids lie directly to your face? Are you raising little sociopaths? Are they doomed to be pathological liars? Most likely not. Kids all have varying degrees of honesty. Some are super honest and others are…well, not so honest. But you can help more than you think.

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5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem and Self-Esteem Activities for Kids that Actually Work!

5 Things Good Parents Do That Actually Hurts Self-Esteem and Self-Esteem Activities for Kids that Actually Work!

We all want our kids to be the best version of themselves. Sometimes we want this so badly, we inadvertently create the opposite. Sometimes we need to take a step back and assess our own behavior. Learn what you should do and what you shouldn’t do! Also, explore self esteem activities for kids that actually works!

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Ask the Child Therapist Episode 20: Teaching Feelings to Kids Who Struggle to Express Emotions

Ask the Child Therapist Episode 20:  Teaching Feelings to Kids Who Struggle to Express Emotions

Do your kids shutdown when they’re upset? Teaching feelings and emotional intelligence to kids isn’t always a nice thing to do, for some it is a necessity.

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