What is HOCD and Why is it Never Talked About? “Can I private message you.” Is normally how it starts. “My child has an issue that I am nervous to discuss in front of others.” More often than not, they want to talk about HOCD, also known as Homosexual OCD. I prefer the newer term, Sexual Orientation OCD, as it is more encompassing and much […]
Things Kids Can Do to Prevent OCD from Getting Worse When our kids have OCD it can feel like we are losing control. New compulsions are popping up all the time and all our efforts can seem futile. That is why it is so important to give our kids the tools to help themselves. Educating them on what OCD is and how it works is […]
How to Help Kids with OCD Checking Behavior It starts off with a little nag. Did you do it? Are you sure? The uncertainty grows. The nagging impulse grows. Check! Check again! Until eventually the child caves and checks. But OCD checking behavior is a trap. Mental quick sand, I like to call it. It catches people in a vicious loop that they can’t get […]
Helping Kids with Depersonalization: When They Worry They are Not Real There is a type of anxiety that many people don’t talk about or understand – that is depersonalization or derealization. Both issues can be alarming for both a child and their parent. When kids worry they are living in a dream, it is hard to know what to say. When they feel like they […]
What is Emotional Contamination OCD? OCD can wreak havoc in any family. But one sub-type of OCD that can be particularly painful is emotional contamination OCD. Emotional contamination issues can hurt family relationships and confuse parents. Sadly most people, even mental health professionals, understand very little about how OCD can manifest. OCD isn’t just about germs and constant cleaning. OCD has many themes and sub-types. […]
Helping Kids Who Get Scared of Strange Noises “What was that?!” – is usually how it starts. A Bump. A thump. Anything unusual (or not that unusual) sends our children’s anxiety into a tailspin. Anxiety is on high alert. It is quietly scanning the environment for anything and everything that doesn’t sound “normal.” Unfortunately that includes noises like the air conditioning, the ice maker or […]
Helping Kids Realize that Avoidance Grows Anxiety & OCD One of anxiety and OCD’s favorite behaviors is avoidance. Avoidance grows these struggles quicker than any other behavior. Anxiety will whisper, “just don’t go.” OCD will plead, “just don’t touch it.” The more our kids avoid (and the more we help them avoid), the bigger these issues grow. In this week’s kids YouTube video, I talk […]
Helping Kids with OCD Realize Reassurance Can be a Compulsion The compulsion is disguised as reassurance. You think you are talking to your child, but you are really talking to OCD. “Will I get sick if I…” “Am I a bad person if I…” “Do I have a fever…” “Did you touch that?” “Can that hurt me…” “What if I called you a bad name […]
How to Help Kids Handle “What-If” Worries Anxiety loves the What if game. What if…I die? What if …you die? What if… I throw up? What if…the world explodes? When kids play the What if game with anxiety, they will almost always lose. In this week’s Ask the Child Therapist Kid/Teen Youtube video, I talk to kids about how to handle What-if thoughts and stop them […]
People think OCD is about germs or neatness, but many don’t realize that OCD can cause images to get “stuck” in a child’s head.
This isn’t about seeing something upsetting and worrying about it. This is about a particular image, scene or character literally “stuck” in their head.
No one likes the idea of throw up. No one likes getting sick. But when you have a child with Emetophobia (the fear of throwing up), they are consumed with the idea of throw up. Will they see someone who throws up? Will they throw up? Will they catch something that will make them throw up?