There are so many things we want to control in our lives. None of us want to die, get sick, get rejected, get judged, get hurt. None of us want to be overwhelmed with feelings of hurt, harm, embarrassment or disgust. None of us want to second guess our actions, behaviors or future.
OCD is tricky. It can seem easy to outsmart. Maybe if I just argue with it, I can crush it with facts. Maybe if I just take preventative measures, it will leave me alone. Maybe if I just do what it wants, it will finally go away.
Why Rationalizing with OCD Makes it Worse This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to replace the guidance of a qualified professional. OCD thoughts and behaviors can be wildly irrational. It can make our kids wash and re-wash, even though intellectually they know they are clean. It can make them check and re-check, even though they know what they saw. It […]
There is nothing worse than finally getting rid of one OCD theme, only to have a brand new one take its place. Often this is the time when kids and even parents start to lose hope. Even though this can be so disappointing, it isn’t necessary that anyone give up hope. In fact, having new themes pop up is no indication that the skills and tools aren’t working. Believe it or not, sometimes it is a sign they are working well
There is an important player in the battle with anxiety or OCD – and that is ourselves. How our kids talk to themselves about their anxiety or OCD struggles can be key to their long-term success.
Dealing with anxiety or OCD can be an uphill battle. But with the right ingredients, kids can flourish and overcome many of their struggles.
Many of us are afraid to do or see certain things. That’s a human experience. But some of us are paralyzed by that fear. A phobia around anything can have the power to dominate our lives. It can dictate what we do and how we do it.
Helping Kids with OCD Who have to Read and Reread OCD can impact so much of our children’s lives, including their ability to read. Often this is missed completely or misdiagnosed as a learning issue. OCD can make people feel that they might not have “fully” understood what they are reading. Or perhaps it makes them feel like they didn’t really read a sentence and […]
Helping Kids with OCD Who have a Hard Time Showering OCD likes to disrupt anything in its wake, including the things we must do on a daily basis. OCD can make it hard to eat, go to the bathroom and especially shower. This happens for a variety of reasons depending on the person’s OCD themes. In this week’s Youtube video I talk about how to […]
Helping Kids Who Feel too Overwhelmed to Work on OCD or Anxiety Sometimes anxiety or OCD feels SO big that any step to work on it can feel like too much. Sometimes our kids aren’t motivated to work on it because they are too overwhelmed. In this week’s Youtube video for kids and teens, I talk about how to get past the paralysis of overwhelm […]
How to Stop Panic Attacks from Ruling Your Child’s Life Sometimes we focus so much on how to stop panic attacks that we miss an even bigger problem, avoidance. What’s even more debilitating than panic attacks is the panic around having them. Panic attacks create a knee-jerk reaction of avoidance. They might avoid going to school, going out with friends, or going to the movies. […]
Beating OCD or Anxiety Starts with Accepting This So much of anxiety or OCD is the illusion of control. If I do this, then nothing bad will happen. If I wash enough, I won’t get contaminated. If I say this in my head, the discomfort will go away. If I ask this question (again), then I’ll feel reassured. The only problem is we don’t have […]
What to Do When Your Child Regrets an OCD Exposure We are always encouraging our kids to take one small step towards fear, towards discomfort. What if they do an OCD exposure and it all goes terribly wrong? What if they take a giant leap towards their fears, but instantly regret it? Pure panic can ensue. So how are we supposed to help with that? […]
Helping Kids Discover Core Fears Driving Anxiety or OCD Our kids can have a million different intrusive thoughts, anxious feelings and compulsive behaviors. But often there will be a core fear that groups these fears together. It is important to note, that regardless of what theme or core fear a child has, the framework of how to address OCD or anxiety is exactly the same. […]