One of the most common worries I see in my therapy practice, is the worry about bad guys. What if someone breaks in? What if someone kidnaps me? What if someone murders me? What if I get attacked while I’m in the backyard? What if someone is hiding in my closet?
For some kids there is a growing feeling of dread and doom as the first day of school looms closer. Is your child nervous to go back to school? They are not alone.
What if I throw up? What if I get sick? What if I fail that test? What if they don’t like me? Kids with anxiety have tons of what if’s. More often than not, to help reduce anxiety we reassure them that these “bad” things aren’t going to happen.
It often starts off with a question. “Mom if I touch my mouth after I touched the Clorox wipe, is that safe?” It might pick up steam from there… “Mom if the shampoo gets in my eyes, will I go blind? From there the questions can be endless and never ending.
Are you upset? Are you mad? Are you mad at me? These are the questions that many anxious kids desperately ask when people around them aren’t happy. There is good reason for it, sensitive children feel people’s emotions. I mean really feel them. So how do you help your sensitive child?
Anxiety and OCD want to rule the show. They want to be in control. They wants to make all the first moves. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can teach your kids how to take the power back. How to not only react to anxiety or OCD, but how to purposely poke back.
I often hear, “I can’t do that exposure, OCD is keeping me safe!” Unfortunately when a child believes OCD is keeping them safe, it makes it almost impossible for them to agree to exposures.
Ahhh. You finally have a nice break. Your child is curled up on the couch with little to no plans of ever moving. And frankly, you feel the same way. It might have been a tough school year of stress, anxiety and challenges. But ironically, there is no better time than the summer to work on anxiety or OCD.
Summer is here and most kids are ecstatic. But kids with anxiety or OCD can feel some dread. Dread over the downtime. Dread over the slow pace that invites anxiety or OCD to take center stage.
“Why on earth did I think that?!” – that is at the heart of many OCD Intrusive thoughts. The fear of the thought itself. Having disturbing thoughts is….disturbing. But what is even more upsetting is that you had the thought at all.
Your child is stuck. They are on a permanent loop that will not end. They have to do it again and again and again. Time passes but they cannot move on. Your child is not trying to make it perfect. They are not trying to do their best. They are just waiting until it feels “just right.” Welcome to the world of Just Right OCD.
Have you ever wondered what your child with OCD is going through? What their life is like growing up with OCD?
I had the pleasure of talking to John Tessitore, the founder of the JCK Foundation. He was willing to get raw with me and share some personal details of what life was like growing up with thoughts he hid from the outside world.
Does your child worry weeks and months in advance about things that are happening in the future? Anxious kids are consumed with future worries. It keeps them up at night and gives them stomach pain during the day. Teaching anxious kids how to deal with these worries can significantly reduce their stress.