Your child explodes when he comes home from school. You spend hours trying to get him to bed. You have been dealing with mysterious stomach issues that have stumped your pediatrician. These are the subtle signs of child anxiety that are often missed.
It sounds like World War 3 in the other room. Words are flying. Fists are flying. You hope one of your offspring will survive. The sound of my kids fighting is like nails to the chalkboard. “Make it stop!” I plead to no one in particular. Even if I said it out loud, I doubt any of them would be able to hear me over the blood curdling screams.
Your child is doing it again. That weird quirk. You cringe every time you see it. You tell her to stop. She tries, but there it is again. You tell yourself, it will pass. They all do. It’s always something different. Today it is some weird eye blinking and maybe next month she’ll blow into her hands. You’ve stopped keeping track of how many “strange habits” she has had or how long they last. But what if they aren’t “strange habits?”
What if they aren’t tics?
It is that time again. Didn’t we just do this twenty-four hours ago? Your heart starts to beat a bit faster as you prepare for the nightly battle that is about to ensue. Getting your kids to do homework is akin to getting your wisdom teeth pulled and frankly – you rather skip both. “I don’t want to do it!” your daughter screams. “That’s not how she taught us! You don’t get it.” complains your son. Since when did getting your kids to do homework become such a ridiculous chore? Don’t let homework battles destroy your family’s peace. Wave the white flag and take a break to watch this.
Do your kids shutdown when they’re upset? Teaching feelings and emotional intelligence to kids isn’t always a nice thing to do, for some it is a necessity.
Do you wonder how to get on the same page, or at least look like you do in front of your kids? Couples need to learn how to disagree over parenting in a more productive fashion. They need to learn how to put away their claws and fight over parenting out of ear shot of their kids. When couples can’t come together on how to parent there is only one person who suffers… the child. Put down your daggers and agree to a temporary peace offering while you watch this video.
There were three words in my childhood that could make my heart stop. You’re – Changing – Schools! “Not again!” I would plead. I used to think that changing schools was as close to death as one could get. It was an unwelcomed restart in a life that would prefer to be uninterrupted. My parents were as cavalier about moving as they were about taking the trash out. It needed to happen and happen often.
A screaming toddler is not fun, but it is a normal part of development. Here are some child therapist tips on how to deal with toddler tantrums.
I brushed my teeth! I did my homework! I didn’t hit her! Does your child tell a lie too easily? Do lies just pour out of your child’s mouth? It is not uncommon for children to lie to get out of trouble, but some kids get way too comfortable telling lies.
What are you supposed to do if your kids fight? Are you destined to listen to that bickering forever or can you do do something to help their relationship? There are some things that we as parents can do to decrease the frequency of how often our kids fight. We can take some subtle steps to improve their bond. Here are a few.
When your kids forget their homework, are you quick to rush home and hand deliver it? When your kids have an argument with their best friend are you immediately on the phone with their mom trying to reach a resolution? How often are you rescuing your kids? As parents, we don’t want to see our children fail. We don’t want them to experience the pain we had to go through. We want to rescue them from the mistakes we made. But what if our well-intentioned behaviors have the opposite effect? What if it actually has the power to harm our children and make them ill-prepared for life?
Some kids are anxious right out of the womb. Anxious toddlers can be difficult to parent because they don’t have the language yet to express how they feel. They are more sensitive. They are pickier. They are more overwhelmed. And all of those emotions are wrapped up in a 3-foot tall little person with newly developed language and no self-regulation. Yikes! That is a recipe for disaster.
Toddlers are my favorite little people. I can say that because my last child has finally moved out of that stage and I am now [sniffle, sniffle] toddler-less. A funny thing happens when you are no longer in the throes of toddlerhood – you see toddlers in a whole new light.
When you are knee deep in toddlerhood, you often miss the cute innocence of toddlers. You might miss the hysterical way they try to exert their independence. You probably see no humor when they fall to the ground and forget how to walk or how they have no filter when they talk to strangers.
If I had a penny for every time a parent asked this I would have, well – a lot of pennies! Who doesn’t want to know how to raise kids who won’t talk back? When kids talk back it can send us into a tailspin. Not only is it disrespectful, but it can make us feel like we are failing as a parent. And that is never a good thing, right? So, what is the magic secret sauce to raise respectful, polite children? If you are wondering how to discipline kids who won’t talk back, you are missing the bigger picture.