Nothing is off limits for OCD, including your child’s food. Does OCD make them feel disgusted by some foods? Do they think their food tastes, smells or looks weird? Do they wind up avoiding foods due to this?
It can be hard to know how to beat OCD and even harder to find an OCD therapist with the expertise to guide you through it!
That is why I created my new book, Crushing OCD Workbook for Kids. I took all my clinical skills from my practice and poured it into this book so kids can learn all they need to know one engaging activity at a time.
OCD loves to get our kids on the hamster wheel of rules, compulsions and avoidance. It dangles a carrot that says, “Just do what I want and all your discomfort will go away.” When our kids believe OCD’s lies they live in a world that is controlled by OCD.
When you have OCD you hand over all power to a glitch in your brain. You allow OCD to construct rules, beliefs and compulsions that hold you prisoner. Unfortunately the more you feed this OCD glitch, the bigger the glitch grows. The rules morph, the OCD compulsions shift, and the cycle becomes never ending.
OCD likes to hook into everything, including our child’s emotions. It is common for people to have OCD themes around emotions.
When you have OCD it is helpful to identify the OCD compulsions you are doing that are growing your OCD and making your OCD worse. Unfortunately just because someone has OCD doesn’t mean they understand OCD.
OCD doesn’t just bombard our kids with intrusive thoughts, it can also overwhelm them with intrusive emotions. Shame is one of OCD’s most powerful weapons.
OCD is very convincing. It convinces our kids that there is a threat. It convinces them that they need to take action. It convinces them that they have full control.
OCD is an octopus with sticky tentacles. Those tentacles can glom onto almost anything. They can watch, hear, or observe anything that can, in return, become a new OCD theme. The issue isn’t what they hear or watch, the issue is how big and sticky the tentacles are. The goal is to build skills and knowledge to shrink the octopus and part of that is learning all about OCD.
OCD is like a chess match. You make your move, OCD makes its move. It is not a stagnant disorder that just lies there as you crush it with OCD skills. It looks to outsmart, outmaneuver you.
In this week’s YouTube video I’m discussing the many common ways Existential OCD themes can make you doubt your reality and how to override and outsmart OCD.
How your child views life in general can have a huge impact on their struggles with anxiety or OCD. If they see all the negative aspects of everything, they’ll automatically be more prone to a hopeless, defeatist attitude.