5 Things Every Parent Should Know About Child Predators. #1. You Already Know Him.


  Nobody ever thinks it can happen to them. Nobody thinks they know a child predator. Until it is too late. tweet

Child grooming. Learn the signs. Protect your kids. A Must-Read for anyone with children. Helps along with body safety.

Child predators are not some strangers in a dark alley. They are  people we all know. They are our friends, our relatives, our kid’s coaches. The best way to keep your kids safe is to learn their tactics. Ignorance and naiveté is dangerous in this situation.

Child predators are not strangers in dark alleys. They are your friends, your relatives, the coach on your kid's team. The best way to protect your kids is to not be in denial. Learn their tactics and keep your kids safe.


The most important step in grooming a child is to gain the trust of those around them. Predators are skilled at taking on the attributes of a “good guy” and that is unfair to the REAL good guys among us. Before they even meet their victim – Predators often place themselves in a position of trust. They seek out roles that place them around children. They ingratiate themselves into your life and into your routine. Predators are often patient and they will take months or years building up the trust with those around them.


Once the predator has established a role in your life and has gained your trust – they take things one step further. They might offer to do you favors or bring gifts and treats for your children. They appear extremely helpful and friendly. They may be playful and silly with your children, but they are careful to not be overly attentive to your children in your presence.


By now the predator has gained your complete trust and approval. Your child knows you trust them – so they trust them too. It is at this point the predator’s goal is to isolate your child. They might offer to babysit, give your child a ride, tutor them or give them extra coaching. The predator continues to work on the child’s trust and tries to develop a “special” bond with the them.


You may get comfortable leaving your child alone with this “good guy.” Your child is always eager to go with them and they seem happy upon returning. It may be at this point that the predator starts to touch your child. At first it may be a tickle fight – where the predator “accidentally” touches the child’s private parts. The sexual contact will progress from there.


Young children may not understand what the predator is doing. They may not know they are being abused. The predator might convince them that they are playing a secret game or have a secret bond. Older kids may think they are “special” or have a relationship with the predator that no one else would understand. Some kids are told that no one would believe them or worse – that their family will be hurt if they tell.


-Look for these warning signs.

-Understand that no role or position exempts a person from being a predator.

-If something feels wrong in your gut

– trust your instincts. -Keep the communication open between you and your child.

-Talk to your child about their time away from you.

-Talk to your child about sexual abuse and arm them with knowledge.


If you haven’t already, check out my other articles and on childhood sexual abuse: Are you Teaching your Toddler Skills to Prevent Sexual Abuse

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28 responses to “5 Things Every Parent Should Know About Child Predators. #1. You Already Know Him.”

  1. Suzi T says:

    Scary topic but one which unfortunately needs to be faced. Great article.

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Thanks Suzi – it is a scary topic, but hopefully it will help someone.

      • Joe Kohan says:

        Hi Natasha, I am not a therapist but still a professional. I am a LEO. I have been trained though to recognize and get professional assistance for those in need. I have found with my experience that I am helping a lot of single divorced or separated women. They are usually vulnerable emotionally with self esteem issues. In my profession I encounter many of them who come to trust me. I find that I can only educate them so much and prefer to recommend them to trained therapists/counselors. Thank you so much for highlighting some of the tricks of predators. May I copy this article, and do you have any recommendations for further reading.

  2. Danielle says:

    This post NEEDS to be shared everywhere. Parents tend to be very trusting of people they know, not realizing that anyone could be a predator, not just strangers. Thank you for posting this! #TurnItUpTuesday
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    • Natasha Daniels says:

      I agree Danielle. It is a shame we have to watch out for this, but that is the reality of our world. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. Very important and informative. Thanks for sharing.
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  4. Michele Spirn says:

    Important article about a subject we all need to be aware of. Good tips.

  5. Thanks for sharing – a very important topic that doesn’t get a lot of coverage.

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  8. Misty says:

    Terrifying. I hadn’t realized until reason this that I was being groom as a teen by a neighbor…. =(

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Sorry to hear that Misty. Grooming can be hard to detect at times. I hope all turned out okay in the end.

      • Misty says:

        He got me trapped in my parents bedroom one day while nobody was home except my dad and I. I was at the computer online and he started hugging and kissing on me. It was one of those computer chairs with the arm rests, so I was trapped between the chair and the desk. My dad was mowing the grass and noticed he had gone inside the house. So he killed the mower and came inside and screamed for me. Jim (that was his name) came running out of the bedroom. Then I came out. My dad asked me what he was doing in there and I said “just keep him out of here!” Wouldn’t tell him what happened. When my mom and twin got home later, my dad told my mom about it and that I wouldn’t tell him anything. So she came in to talk to me. I never wore those clothes again. I couldn’t bring myself to. And I took the longest shower after that and then bleached the clothes. I just wanted him off of me. He didn’t get any further than kissing on my face and hugging me. But it took a VERY long time to ever be able to trust a man again. I didn’t date for about 5 years after that. I thought he had ruined me.

        I’ve found that I heal more and more the more I talk about it. He never went to jail or anything. I never did anything about it. Now I wish I had. Because what if he is doing this to another teenager? ?

        • Natasha Daniels says:

          Thank you for sharing your story Misty. Hopefully it will help other parents and kids. I am sorry you had to go through that.

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  10. Unknow says:

    Everything you say is so true !!!
    As a child(7-8 years) I had an uncle that lived in a trailer on our
    Property he first was so helpfull to my mother he new my father could care less about his family. My
    Father was never around so he didint have to worry about him!
    But he did everything in his power to earn my mothers trust : help her, side with her during family conflict with my dad etc…
    Then he started grooming me: he would always bring me stuff like chips, candy and gifts. Then the tickle fights, the hugging , slowly he did things to me,to the point were I was
    Probly one step away from getting rapped!
    Luckily my house caught fire and that uncle had to part his own way.
    When I was about 10 years he tried to hug me again and I ran… I knew at that point what he had done to me was wrong!!!
    Till this day I thank god our house burned!!!
    I never told anybody what
    happened to me… 🙁

    • Natasha Daniels says:

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. Other people can learn from what happened to you. Thankfully your gut instinct kept you safe!

    • Joe Kohan says:

      You were very much one of the lucky ones. You can see though firsthand how these people capitalize on situations. Opportunistic Sociopaths who can’t wait for each succession to reinforce their corrupt, contaminated, and distorted minds.

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  16. Jasmine says:

    Don’t forget ‘he’ could be a ‘she’ (approx 5% of victims report being sexually assaulted by a female) so don’t disregard a child’s concerns about a person just because that person is female.

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